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trackman11 · 61-69, M
Of course. Cookie has a great answer. There are more ways than one to cheat. If it’s lust then you are giving into temptation and that indicates a lack of self discipline. Although you can love one and cheat (lust driven) with another, frankly it makes you far less “loveable”. Self discipline is always important but exponentially more important when others count on you.
Of course instead of lust it can be driven by emotion and attraction to a soul as much as a body. This of course argues that you can love more than one and argues against the romantic ideal that you have a single soul mate. This leaves you with the reality that any and every relationship requires you to make choices. Commitment is what is now at stake. Love alone is never enough. Life is far too complicated. I love each of my grandchildren and all four of my children, but they don’t feel betrayed because they know I am committed to them. In most cases your partner will expect your commitment to mean that you “love” them exclusively and as a result they learn to trust you. Commitment and discipline are some of the many underpinnings that form the foundation of a lasting love.
I do understand it’s more popular to romanticize love and turn it in to nice words, warm fuzzy feelings and emotions. I’m just suggesting that’s not enough and cheating is always a choice. When you believe you are above it you might be most vulnerable.
Of course instead of lust it can be driven by emotion and attraction to a soul as much as a body. This of course argues that you can love more than one and argues against the romantic ideal that you have a single soul mate. This leaves you with the reality that any and every relationship requires you to make choices. Commitment is what is now at stake. Love alone is never enough. Life is far too complicated. I love each of my grandchildren and all four of my children, but they don’t feel betrayed because they know I am committed to them. In most cases your partner will expect your commitment to mean that you “love” them exclusively and as a result they learn to trust you. Commitment and discipline are some of the many underpinnings that form the foundation of a lasting love.
I do understand it’s more popular to romanticize love and turn it in to nice words, warm fuzzy feelings and emotions. I’m just suggesting that’s not enough and cheating is always a choice. When you believe you are above it you might be most vulnerable.