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Yes. Sex isn't always about love. Urges are hormonal and biological. Then, there is the excitement of the chase or the boredom factor. Indulging in a bit of strange doesn't mean you don't love your partner. One thing has nothing to do with another.
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@SW-User some people claim they are able to seperate the emotions from the physical acts of intimacy. To them allegedly physical intimacy with another is not much different than scratching an itch.
I can agree with you saying indulging doesn't mean you don't love your partner.
My disagreement is with the cheating part.
If you discussed it, come to an agreement and they are ok with it... then have at.
To cheat is not only dishonest and selfish, the cheater is also depriving their partner's opportunity to play too.
As if 'it's ok for me to play on the side, but not for you'.
Who is to say if you are not satisfied and want to 'indulge', that your partner might want to as well?
I can agree with you saying indulging doesn't mean you don't love your partner.
My disagreement is with the cheating part.
If you discussed it, come to an agreement and they are ok with it... then have at.
To cheat is not only dishonest and selfish, the cheater is also depriving their partner's opportunity to play too.
As if 'it's ok for me to play on the side, but not for you'.
Who is to say if you are not satisfied and want to 'indulge', that your partner might want to as well?
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@bijouxbroussard Granted, dishonesty and sneaking around are involved but that doesn't mean a person can't still love the person they're cheating on. The fact they are lying to their partner is another issue entirely.
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@VeronicaJane I don't disagree with your stance or bijoux's. But dishonesty and sneaking around weren't part of the original question. That's a whole other ball of wax. Now you're both talking about the end result that occurs when a person cheats. It doesn't mean you don't love the person you're cheating on.
I do understand the ability to separate emotion from the physical act. I've known a couple of people who have addictive personalities and sex was one of their issues. A guy I know ruined his marriage because he couldn't control his urges. It's a shame because he really did love his wife.
I do understand the ability to separate emotion from the physical act. I've known a couple of people who have addictive personalities and sex was one of their issues. A guy I know ruined his marriage because he couldn't control his urges. It's a shame because he really did love his wife.
@SW-User the ability to seperate - intellectually I have been exposed to the concept. Don't quite understand it.
Too bad about your friend/guy you know.
I disagree. Its not another ball of wax. Dishonesty and sneaking are part and parcel of cheating. Its part of the package. How many people blatantly tell their spouse they are cheating?
BTW, hot wife and cuckold are not cheating when they agree and get off on it.
Your friend.... did you have him in mind when asking the question?
Perhaps if it were a 'sickness' or 'addiction' it might be possible. But in that case it would be very, very sad and tragic.
Too bad about your friend/guy you know.
I disagree. Its not another ball of wax. Dishonesty and sneaking are part and parcel of cheating. Its part of the package. How many people blatantly tell their spouse they are cheating?
BTW, hot wife and cuckold are not cheating when they agree and get off on it.
Your friend.... did you have him in mind when asking the question?
Perhaps if it were a 'sickness' or 'addiction' it might be possible. But in that case it would be very, very sad and tragic.
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@VeronicaJane
I didn't have anyone in mind since I didn't ask the question darling, Calmemotions did. I simply responded to the question. And of course, you are free to disagree with me, as you have done so twice now.
Yes, I am well aware of "hot wife and cuckold" are not cheating when they agree, as any other relationship that is an open one. Not sure why you feel inclined to bring that up.
I'm sorry you "don't quite understand" the concept of having the ability to separate oneself. As I explained, I do understand it and I don't believe "dishonesty and sneaking around" have anything to do with feeling love for another person. I believe it's a character flaw that gives someone the ability to do that.
Again, what you are stating wasn't the question that was asked. We are going in circles. We disagree. Please accept that. There's nothing to debate here. It's obvious we each aren't going to change the other's mind.
I didn't have anyone in mind since I didn't ask the question darling, Calmemotions did. I simply responded to the question. And of course, you are free to disagree with me, as you have done so twice now.
Yes, I am well aware of "hot wife and cuckold" are not cheating when they agree, as any other relationship that is an open one. Not sure why you feel inclined to bring that up.
I'm sorry you "don't quite understand" the concept of having the ability to separate oneself. As I explained, I do understand it and I don't believe "dishonesty and sneaking around" have anything to do with feeling love for another person. I believe it's a character flaw that gives someone the ability to do that.
Again, what you are stating wasn't the question that was asked. We are going in circles. We disagree. Please accept that. There's nothing to debate here. It's obvious we each aren't going to change the other's mind.