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CookieCrumbs · F
Yes, because Love is not a black and white yes and no concept.
I’m not saying cheating is right, nor do I condemn those who fell into that trap. All I’m saying is that the answer to your question is : Yes, it is possible.
A person can be both a generally honest person and would fall trap to cheating. The same way a person could be honest with his work dealings yet pad his expense reports or take small favours in exchange for something of benefit, or take company supplies for home use. All those examples I’ve mentioned are different forms of “stealing”, but do you call the person a thief?
I’m not saying cheating is right, nor do I condemn those who fell into that trap. All I’m saying is that the answer to your question is : Yes, it is possible.
A person can be both a generally honest person and would fall trap to cheating. The same way a person could be honest with his work dealings yet pad his expense reports or take small favours in exchange for something of benefit, or take company supplies for home use. All those examples I’ve mentioned are different forms of “stealing”, but do you call the person a thief?
bijouxbroussard · F
@CookieCrumbs Actually, yes. It is dishonesty and while it’s human, unless you (general “you”) would feel okay as the partner of someone who cheated, or the employer of someone padding his reports and taking home supplies, it can be assessed as the acts of a cheat or a thief.
CookieCrumbs · F
@bijouxbroussard I agree that it is not right. And definitely not a practice that is right by any standards.
The employee example is something I totally do not approve of, but what I’m stating here is : people call a person who steals a car a thief....but not the one who took supplies home. The society has a “grey” tolerance (almost acceptance) to the act.
The same way that the act of transgression/cheating has found tolerance depending on the situation.... the one doing it has excuses and the one cheated on will only see the betrayal but not see the point of view of the person who has excuses or reasons on why it happened.
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The question is about the possibility of “Love” in those cases, the answer is yes.
If it’s a question on how I feel about the issues at hand: I had been in those situations and my choices reflected how I personally felt about them. I had turned down a marriage proposal bec of questionable trustworthiness of the other person who I had caught cheating once. And I had chosen to become a whistle-blower to stop and correct a bigger version of “padding expenses and taking supplies”.
The employee example is something I totally do not approve of, but what I’m stating here is : people call a person who steals a car a thief....but not the one who took supplies home. The society has a “grey” tolerance (almost acceptance) to the act.
The same way that the act of transgression/cheating has found tolerance depending on the situation.... the one doing it has excuses and the one cheated on will only see the betrayal but not see the point of view of the person who has excuses or reasons on why it happened.
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The question is about the possibility of “Love” in those cases, the answer is yes.
If it’s a question on how I feel about the issues at hand: I had been in those situations and my choices reflected how I personally felt about them. I had turned down a marriage proposal bec of questionable trustworthiness of the other person who I had caught cheating once. And I had chosen to become a whistle-blower to stop and correct a bigger version of “padding expenses and taking supplies”.