Do you spoil your significant other?

I spoiled one SO outrageously. I made every decision, every menu, every plan in the light of 'will he like it?' I learned to cook what he liked and if he was home, cooked only those. I took an interest in what interested him and forgot my own. I bought his clothes and laid them out for him and when he complained there were no shirts that fit him I bought a sewing machine and taught myself to make his shirts. It was genuinely absurd and in time I realized I was no longer THERE.

I have been spoiled by another SO outrageously in different ways. He retained his own excellent Self but made my life one long fragrant candlelit bubblebath. I liked it, don't get me wrong. But that wasn't so good either because one day he got sick.

The best way to spoil is to spoil each other in the ways that are most important to each.