so this guy totally used me, and he's a total ass hole, but the thing is I got attached. I want to get over him so badly and not be phased by him, but I don't know how to. Help how do I do this?
Realize realistically, how lucky you were to get away from this person. Think how miserable your life would’ve been with him. Think about how that special one who knows how to treat you as you deserve, is out there looking for you, waiting for you, and how exciting it is to know you have him to look forward to, and all the fun you’ll have. Be thankful you saw the red flags and realized you love yourself way too much than to stay with such a person. Get excited about meeting your new boyfriend and have fun looking for him. He is out there waiting just for you! Keep your mind on him, because you’ll never go anywhere looking at the past. Who wants to stay with someone who doesn’t appreciate you, respect you, or deserve you? That’s a no-brainer, to get away. Good for you! I’m proud of you! You’ve seen beyond your nose! Some don’t and stay miserable. But not you! Congratulations! 👍
sometimes getting under someone else helps. long term, just surround yourself with all the people in your life that aren't assholes and focus on bettering yourself. treat yourself right if nobody else will. gotta remind yourself that it's not all bad and things can and will get better.
Do you mean his ass, or do you mean he is an ass? Time really does heal wounds. Also remember a lot of any attachment is how much you put into it with your own mind and your own energy. Those are yours, not his.