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Not always, sometimes, perhaps most times, but assuming will kill a relationship.
Question what you think is off and go by evidence.
Question what you think is off and go by evidence.
msrobot · 26-30, F
@SW-User How do you identify it though? I'm really confused
SW-User
@msrobot If you ask about your partner about it say something like: "I have been feeling this way" and gauge the reaction if it is hostile or defensive then something is off, becuase people do not become defensive for no reason.
Saying "I feel" instead of "you have been" is better, because the latter one seems more confrontational and you want to make sure you have not given him/her any reason to think that you are trying to pick a fight.
So, when you put it on your own self there should be no hostile or defensive reaction, unless the partner is feeling gulity about something.
Then you may want to tell them you are not sure why he/she is so upset right now, again gauge reaction if he/she won't tell you or tries to make you feel gulity for asking then they are most likely hiding something from you.
Saying "I feel" instead of "you have been" is better, because the latter one seems more confrontational and you want to make sure you have not given him/her any reason to think that you are trying to pick a fight.
So, when you put it on your own self there should be no hostile or defensive reaction, unless the partner is feeling gulity about something.
Then you may want to tell them you are not sure why he/she is so upset right now, again gauge reaction if he/she won't tell you or tries to make you feel gulity for asking then they are most likely hiding something from you.