What is the most important thing in a relationship?

@SailorMarz but which are more important to you?

@Fernie i think individuality and space is important. Both should have their own thing going on. Sometimes people lose who they are in a relationship because they're so stuck on eachother, they have nothing that's theirs anymore.

@SailorMarz good point

@SailorMarz I LOVE THAT! It is so disturbing to watch couples who are so co-dependent they can't leave each others side

@Fernie i've been through that, so i know. (:

@SailorMarz Most co-dependent people I know and have known ...do not/did not have that level of self awareness to know they were that way. I think and hope that means you won't find yourself in that situation again

@Fernie I'm [b]too[/b] self aware, i think. I don't like being in my head so much. But i guess this is one of those times where that comes in handy.

@SailorMarz A person can NEVER be too self aware. Self awareness is self-knowledge, being enlightened, awake. If you overthink things ...that is something different. Your self-awareness will keep you from making the same mistakes over and over as many of us do because we do not see ourselves....self aware people DO see