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@SW-User oh no! I'm so sorry!This is so sad!

@Eddiesolds sorry I didn’t mean to bring up a sad option but I lost a good person to breast cancer after 22 years.

@SW-User I'm really sorry. I feel for you so much.

@Eddiesolds thanks, I appreciate that.

@SW-User Thankyou for sharing it!This touched me so much!I'm still feeling it!I wish i could hug you.

@Eddiesolds thank you. I think the hardest part for me is trying to start again. We spent every cent and sold our home to pay for her treatment as it went on for 8 years.

@SW-User Gosh im so sorry! I was wondering about that.I have a friend that had to do the same thing for her husband.They had three kids. My wife at that time and I helped as much as we could. It was so hard.Ill never forget it!They eventually moved out east,to be with her parents.She and my ex still keep in touch. I hope you can get back on track.God bless you sir!

@Eddiesolds Thanks and I can quite understand what they went through. I don’t have kids so that makes me sad especially now but I loved her family but they have distanced themselves from me since the funeral and the other thing I found was that friends we had as a couple no longer want to be friends so it’s like waking up in an alternate reality where everyone treats you differently.

@SW-User What a shame! Gosh I could never do that! I told my ex straight out,we're helping them. I could never turn my back! They should be there for you!Gosh you love her so much! I'm so sad hearing this! My ex wife and her are still so close. I still talk to my ex. I always say Hi to Chris! It's only love! What a shame!! I'm so sad for you.sorry I said it again.but it's true!If you ever want to talk about anything.ill always be here for you.I promise you!

@Eddiesolds yeah it was really sad. She wanted to die alone so I never even got to say goodbye as the end all happened within a few hours. I don’t know why her feelings at the end changed for me but mine never did for her. We never even had an argument in 22 years. Thanks too I appreciate that.

@SW-User oh my god.im balling my head off now.i wasn't expecting this! Gosh I am so so sorry! This must still be so hard for you.She loved you.maybe she was trying to spare you the pain.Not thinking of what you would be going through afterwards.This is so sad! I hope you see her in heaven.If you beleive in that. I do.I just want to hug you.

@Eddiesolds I’m sorry I didn’t mean to upset you with all this. Others have said that maybe she did that too to spare me the pain etc, but then I can’t explain why she wanted a divorce and to change her name back. That really hurt a lot. Also I used all the equity in our house to pay for her treatments which were over $5000 per month by the end and she had death insurance which would have allowed me to keep the house which I’d just renovated. But she left that to her parents so you can plan for the worst case scenarios but then something can still leave you homeless.

@SW-User Dont say sorry.This is me.its Ok! Maybe her parents made her decide this.Maybe they pressured her into it.so they would get the money.Money is a horrible thing.I know we need it,but it changes people!Maybe your wife felt guilty towards her parents.It upsets me,that they didn't give you a penny.They wouldn't have had to give it all to you.but enough so you wouldn't be struggling and losing everything.I think your wife was between a rock and a hard place.I wouldnt put it past the parents.I'm sure she felt so bad.

@Eddiesolds This is something I hadn't considered and nobody else had suggested but, actually it could make sense. They were distant and cold towards me at the funeral and they were never like that. I felt like they some how blamed me for her death, but I just dismissed that but you know you could be right, because she was nice to me right until the end. We would still talk and go out for lunch and she was never mean to me ever apart from the divorce which when it happened she seemed to want to happen really fast. That didn't make sense to me, I would say, ok so the wheels are in motion, there's no rush is there? I mean she wasn't doing it because of a trust issue or because she had another partner and it did seem very out of character for her, so yes I think she was under pressure from her parents because they had no spare money and now they are going on a world cruise while I had to move back into my mothers basement which is incredibly embarrassing at my age. Yeah i think she was between a rock and a hard place and her father was a very domineering kind of guy.

@SW-User I hope they wake up and think about you one day. I'm so sorry!

@Eddiesolds thank you, you have been so kind and understanding. Well her parents might be living in a cruise ship but they don’t have their daughte or me or anyone else

@SW-User Anytime my friend.It was so nice talking to you! I hope you'll be ok. I wish i could help you.Things aren't so great here right now. I'll get out of it though.one day! I'm really trying.

@Eddiesolds I’m sorry things aren’t so great for you either but we’ll get better eventually. Great talking with you.