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I’m in a complicated situation

I’ve been dating my gf for almost 7 months now and I’m starting to feel like I should break up with her. The main thing is that I’m enlisting and leaving for boot camp in just under 4 weeks and I feel like we won’t last in a long distance relationship anyway but there are some little things too like how I’m avoiding drugs like the plague. I used to smoke pot but I’ve stopped for obvious reasons and I don’t even wanna be around it for fear I’ll fail a drug test. She literally always tries smoking around me even when I tell her not to. She’ll start doing it while we’re in the car or we’ll be outside and she has the need to be right next to me while she does it. It usually results in me yelling at her because I’ve told her dozens of times. Another thing is that she’s been on spring break and has spent the whole week with me and she’s just been annoying the hell out of me and making me angry. Like we probably fight about something every day. It’s to the point that I’m ready for her to just go back to school. She also seems to have no common sense and literally seems like a brainless twat sometimes because she seems to just be into pot and stupid social media crap. I can’t have any type of intelligent conversation with her without always feeling like she’s lost interest before it’s even started. Last but not least she kinda seems like a slacker at times. She was supposed to find a job this semester and she applied to a couple of places and then never reached out about her app or anything. She puts more effort into pot then she does anything else which is aggravating as hell too. The main reason this irritates me is that I don’t want to end up marrying this girl and be paying off her student loans because she slacked off and can’t find a job with her degree because of a bad gpa and extreme lack of involvement on campus. I don’t know there’s just some things I’ve got concerns about future wise and things that irritate me now and I’m not sure what to do. I’ve never been the one to dump someone and really don’t wanna deal with all the crying and stuff and I like this girl I do but within the last month or 2 I’ve went from loving her to just not feeling that anymore and I don’t know how I can get it back.
Magnolia · 31-35, F
I don't see how this is a complicated situation at all. All you've done is talk about all the things you dislike about this girl and it's a pretty long list. I don't see that you're facing any inner battle here. You think she's lazy, thoughtless, stupid and you even called her a twat. You've also taken absolutely no ownership in the failings of this relationship so it's clear that you don't respect her as a partner... Why don't you step up and do what you know needs to be done?
Hdryder555 · 61-69, M
Since you've lost the feeling anyway I'll tell you the truth, she too has or is losing the feeling, as soon as you ship out she will or already has found a new toking buddy.
Hdryder555 · 61-69, M
@Daniel1120 now you're looking for excuses not to break up.
Do you or do you not want to break up?
Either way with in two weeks after you leave she is smoking it up with and fucking someone new.
Daniel1120 · 26-30, M
@Hdryder555 I really don’t think she’d be fucking another dude as soon as her bf left for boot camp dude. I can’t help if you’ve been cheated on by whores in the past by not every girl is a slut.
Hdryder555 · 61-69, M
@Daniel1120 Damn "dude" the reality of the real world is not going to slap you on the face, it's going to kick you in the face,
Good luck.
Run for your life (and sanity!)!
gurlwatcher22 · 61-69, M
Roll out soldier!Wait for the 'Dear John' letter.
Make HER the bad guy.
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
@gurlwatcher22 wow. You are a man in his 50's and this is the best advice you got? Have you been a coward your whole life?
gurlwatcher22 · 61-69, M
Look little miss, this man is going to boot camp to serve our country and to better himself.Also probably to get away from toxic people like his (former?)girlfriend.Do you really think this broad is going to stay true to him once he shoves off?
Have you been a douchebag your whole life?
SW-User
Sounds like you two are on different paths. Makes sense for you to let her go. If you two are meant to be, then you all will adjust.
Sazzio · 31-35, M
Sorry to hear that. Now I would advise you but lets be honest... You won't pay attention to it!
Miram · 31-35, F
I would leave. It's not complicated. Relationships are team efforts. No efforts, no relationship.
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
I did not even read all of this but I think you know the answer already.

When you can write about your girlfriend and call her a brainless twat(even when just annoyed or irritated) it is time to call it quits.
Daniel1120 · 26-30, M
@JaggedLittlePill yeah I know I just really don’t want to make her cry and have to try to comfort her and all that. I’ll feel pretty bad too but idk.
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
@Daniel1120 I understand, unfortunately that is part of relationships. You have a big road ahead and seem to be going in a different direction and she will probably be hurt but she will get past it soon enough.

 
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