A Boy I Dated On Similar Worlds Has Dumped Me, How Can I Restore My Relationship With Him?

I was, until recently dating this boy, on Similar Worlds dumped me for not being more transparent with him, I love him and he loved me, I was forthcoming with him about my transsexuality and he accepted me as his princess, but since I haven't sent him any photos of me in heels, he dumped me, I love him more than he will be able to see, my heart aches for him, but I'm not sure how to balance my ridiculous situation at home with my parents, with my boyfriend from the states, can someone give me a few hinters-and-pointers?, I would love some friendly girl-to-girl advice

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michaelhh · 61-69, M

Hmm. I can't understand why he would dump you unless you refused to get heels and it caused an argument which got out of hand. I can empathise with him in that I adore heels and an important part of a relationship would be mutual love of them. Are you still in touch with him? Perhaps ask him what style of heels he'd like to see you in. He could always buy some for you, of course.

However. you say you were not transparent with him (or that's his opinion). That sounds more deeply seated than no pictures of heels.

Dogemilataka

What a thoughtful and insightful response,
I was not forthcoming with him, he doesn't know that I don't own any heels, I haven't messaged him in the last two weeks, I should give it a go before assuming he would know that I know what he would like to see me in, he can't buy me heels sweetie, he lives in the united states of america (U.S.A) and I live in australia, I would love to expand our relationship further, marriage is what I would love, besides being economically stable and financially-independent from my parents, be fully-employed as a beautician and hair-stylist or a make-up artist @michaelhh

michaelhh · 61-69, M

@Dogemilataka Is it that you gave up messaging him when he didn't reply? I don't know the exact circumstances, apart from what you've told us, so it's up to you whether to contact him. If you truly love him, you won't give up while there's still hope. We all crave affection and acceptance above all material things, and that's particularly important when we have likings which the general public/society (as it is called!) don't understand or tolerate. Ask him what he would like. Get some heels like the ones he describes. That will mean a lot to him. It is possible for him to buy them on Ebay - for example - and ship them to you.

You have dreams - don't give up on them. Find out what you need to do to follow your career. I work for a company that has an office in Australia but the work isn't for everyone. However, it has a range of health and beauty products that would go nicely alongside the things you have in mind, and it could certainly make you financially independent if you're prepared to put some work in.