Would someone please explain this to me?

Why is it that I attract all the wrong types of guys?
I’m a kind hearted person who has good morals and values with high standards. My friends and family would describe me as a sweetheart, kind, loving, and caring. I’m honest, loyal, trustworthy, faithful, respectful, would do anything for anyone, etc. but for some reason I attract guys who have been to jail, do drugs, cheaters, abusers, liars, have kids they don’t take care of, etc.
why??? Why can’t I meet someone who’s more like me???

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Serenitree · F

After reading all the other responses, I'm going to throw in my two cents worth, because everyone seems to think in some way you do this to yourself.

The fact is, victimizers are very good at recognizing the vulnerable ones. It's like we have a big red V tattooed on our forehead. It says we are gentle, and likely to fear being judgemental, because we might offend the person. So, they play to that. If you're accepting, they start to open up and show a vulnerability of their own. And once they've got you hooked, they begin to abuse your gentle nature and by then you're kind of trapped because, if you start to back off, they accuse [b]you [/b] of being the trickster, and lay the guilt on you.

If, in the beginning, you doubt them and question their motives,,they put on the kicked puppy act and start in with the guilt, immediately, because they see that you will bend over backward to appear unprejudiced.

We don't ask for this, but we do attract it by being too kind to call them as we see them. Try this. One red flag is all it should take for you to say back off, you're getting too close to quickly. You will then see them bring out the big guns. Playing on your emotions. Accusing you of misunderstanding their intentions. They may apologize, but they will not back off graciously. They will try to make you sorry for injuring them. Our kindness is our weakness. We become victims because we don't want to be the ones who hurt people. Narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths are very good at spotting the vulnerable.