What's the best way to get over a break up?
Everything is reminding me of him rn
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I meant to write about things like this and how someone can get over it! Whoops.
Okay, so obviously after breaking up with someone you loved you cry your heart out, feel like a blackhole just opened up inside of you, and you can't stop thinking about them. Right.
The first two "symptoms" take time. You start remembering who you were before you met this person like what it is you do day by day. You know, you fall back into being you because you have to keep on living! That isn't the hard part--[i]but oh, the memories![/i]
This is tricky!
I lost a good friend of mine recently two days before Valentine's. Talk about a kick in the stomach! To this day, I still think of her randomly but not in a way that I want her back. [i]I really don't![/i] My mind let her go for good reasons: she was two faced(in a mentally unhinged way), lied to me, and has attempted suicide at least twice that I know of while I was with her (I can put up with this to a degree...she just kept overdosing on painkillers and wouldn't tell me), ect... [i]But the heart wants what the heart wants. [/i]
Mostly my mind would drift to her memory because she was the one that hurt me. We were very much alike so I trusted her very easily, she even told me I could (lie). Until, [i]boom![/i] landmine. I was on my way out with no say. It blindsided me because I actually thought I mattered which I didn't come to find out. So, I couldn't stop thinking about her...
There's really no way around this until your heart finally lets this person go. Accept it but we can't just do that like flicking a switch! It takes time. So what do you do with the memory of someone you loved once that involuntarily hits you?
[i]Think about it! Think of the good times when they brought a smile to your face![/i]
[b]Do NOT let your mind drift to the moment you lost them!
No...[/b]stay with the honey, so to speak. Then once you can stop thinking about them, do something else, think about something else, ect... I know that's hard to do but you will get better at it!
This way you purge your brain of them, let it process, and you can be on your way. :) I can testify to that personally. I still think of them occasionally but it doesn't feel like I'm dying. It gets a little bit more blase in time.
What is this technique that takes so much mental agility and practice? It's called Joy.
I have been meaning to write more extensively about it, I definitely will on my profile, but you needed to hear about it first.
Okay, so obviously after breaking up with someone you loved you cry your heart out, feel like a blackhole just opened up inside of you, and you can't stop thinking about them. Right.
The first two "symptoms" take time. You start remembering who you were before you met this person like what it is you do day by day. You know, you fall back into being you because you have to keep on living! That isn't the hard part--[i]but oh, the memories![/i]
This is tricky!
I lost a good friend of mine recently two days before Valentine's. Talk about a kick in the stomach! To this day, I still think of her randomly but not in a way that I want her back. [i]I really don't![/i] My mind let her go for good reasons: she was two faced(in a mentally unhinged way), lied to me, and has attempted suicide at least twice that I know of while I was with her (I can put up with this to a degree...she just kept overdosing on painkillers and wouldn't tell me), ect... [i]But the heart wants what the heart wants. [/i]
Mostly my mind would drift to her memory because she was the one that hurt me. We were very much alike so I trusted her very easily, she even told me I could (lie). Until, [i]boom![/i] landmine. I was on my way out with no say. It blindsided me because I actually thought I mattered which I didn't come to find out. So, I couldn't stop thinking about her...
There's really no way around this until your heart finally lets this person go. Accept it but we can't just do that like flicking a switch! It takes time. So what do you do with the memory of someone you loved once that involuntarily hits you?
[i]Think about it! Think of the good times when they brought a smile to your face![/i]
[b]Do NOT let your mind drift to the moment you lost them!
No...[/b]stay with the honey, so to speak. Then once you can stop thinking about them, do something else, think about something else, ect... I know that's hard to do but you will get better at it!
This way you purge your brain of them, let it process, and you can be on your way. :) I can testify to that personally. I still think of them occasionally but it doesn't feel like I'm dying. It gets a little bit more blase in time.
What is this technique that takes so much mental agility and practice? It's called Joy.
I have been meaning to write more extensively about it, I definitely will on my profile, but you needed to hear about it first.