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Winenot · 51-55, F
Prom&proper said it best. Old wounds are understandable but you have to make a conscience effort to put the past behind you, don’t let it hurt you anymore. (And yes this comes with excruciating experience.)
What makes me secure in my relationship (and after 15 years together, we still gross out our kids with our inability to keep our hands off one another) is knowing I will do anything to make my husband happy and content and he will do the same for me. Don’t get me wrong, I don't exist for him, Im independent, have my own interests & hobbies, all that. The same with him but I have him at the forefront of my mind and he does the same for me. When you treat someone that good and you’re treated that well, you don’t want to jeopardize it. A pretty face can walk by, we’re not blind, we notice but once they walk past. They’re not given another thought. Good luck to you. Jealousy can be cured when you both feel safe in your relationship.
What makes me secure in my relationship (and after 15 years together, we still gross out our kids with our inability to keep our hands off one another) is knowing I will do anything to make my husband happy and content and he will do the same for me. Don’t get me wrong, I don't exist for him, Im independent, have my own interests & hobbies, all that. The same with him but I have him at the forefront of my mind and he does the same for me. When you treat someone that good and you’re treated that well, you don’t want to jeopardize it. A pretty face can walk by, we’re not blind, we notice but once they walk past. They’re not given another thought. Good luck to you. Jealousy can be cured when you both feel safe in your relationship.
ZenKitzune · F
@Winenot like I said to prim, it's not a case of purposely holding onto the past at all, these are buried memories of past events that I don't have access to in order to address.
Winenot · 51-55, F
@ZenKitzune I did see that, didn’t realize they were buried memories. In that case, see a professional so you can access, address and move forward. If they were impacting you in any other way besides jealousy, you would try to deal with them right? Take care of yourself.