What is the cure for jealousy?

@Primnproper Great answer. 🙂

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@Primnproper I don't expect much at all and agree with your answer. The issues I'm having are from very old wounds and not much to do with present events. It would be nice to have a clean slate and for these things not to come up but where I am right now they exist and need addressing.

@ZenKitzune you have to find that happiness and peace with yourself to deal with insecurities and at the end of the day jealousy is sparked by insecurities..

@Primnproper Over the past 5 years I've pulled myself out from the blackest place I've ever been. I have triggers that are buried so deep because they were too painful to contemplate. As a result I have hidden things from myself so well that It's kind of a struggle to find and fix them. As different as I feel now about my life and past events, I am still unsure how to reach such subconscious and "forgotten" aspects. It's the most difficult part of my puzzle to date.

@ZenKitzune I've experienced terror in my life and things that scarred me for life, most would be driven crazy by it..for me the key was to accept the things that had happened because we can't change the past and we can't block it out so don't even try it keeps you trapped at that point in your life..You have to decide for yourself if you're going to let this control the rest of your life because that is a choice YOU have control over..

@Primnproper I don't hold grudges or think about the past much these days at all. What I'm saying is that there are things I can't reach that are affecting me now. I feel almost like I need hypnotherapy in order to find out the roots and mend the damage. It's hard to rationalise an event when I can't think about it to begin with.

@ZenKitzune ok but if you think there are things you are not remembering, what will you gain by accessing them, will it add to your life, probably not..so why put yourself through it..it's bottom line about acceptance..

@Primnproper well I'm not sure how to get rid of these triggers without understanding why they are there in the first place.

@Primnproper I need to make my peace with the original event, you know?

@ZenKitzune do the triggers cause memory flashbacks, smells or just feelings..

@Primnproper They cause a feeling like my blood is turning to concrete and I want to be sick. I try to rationalise any thoughts I have as quickly as I can but sometimes there are not thoughts to preempt the physical reaction.

@ZenKitzune what are the triggers?

@Primnproper I'm even finding it hard to list them to myself, I'm not thinking of anything specific but the feeling is already there.

@ZenKitzune so it sounds like PTSD without knowing details but I'd say you need to learn coping mechanisms to deal with the anxiety that the triggers are setting off..

@Primnproper Yeah I was diagnosed as being on the spectrum. Generally the anxiety I was feeling every day has gone, now I am left with pockets of it that come from the triggers. I feel like I am at least getting somewhere but it frustrating. I probably need the kind of psychiatrist I can't afford lol.

@ZenKitzune unless you want to go back and access the subconscious that its locked in that can bring you a whole new level of problems to deal with you need to keep tackling the anxiety set off by the triggers..

@Primnproper It's a daily mission, it's not a state of mind that's easy to live in so I would never attempt to change it if I didn't think it was worth the work.

Good job, Prim. Respect.

@ZenKitzune no one's mind that has a bad past is easy to live with, its about finding a way to live alongside of that past..

@Primnproper That is what I am attempting to do.

@ZenKitzune give it time there is no limit to how long it takes, keep reaffirming good memories when the triggers happen and spark the negative activity, eventually it will lessen..