Is it bad for your girlfriend to make more money then you?
Only asking cause this is about to happen to me, my girl got her job and she’s gonna make three times as much as me. Plz don’t be hateful or rude I just want opinions
26-30, M
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Quakertrucker · 70-79, M
It's only bad if the two of you think it is bad, e.g. if it damages your frail male ego.
I'm not saying your ego is frail, but the majority of men have real frail egos. Thus, you get statements like: "My wife needs to stay home, and let the Man earn the living", or "We need for my wife to work, but she can't make more than me", or "I can't work for a woman", or "Women can not run businesses", or "Women need to stay out of politics", or ... ad infinitum.
My wife and I just retired a year ago. For the last 25 years or so of our marriage, she earned a much higher hourly salary than I did. She was a nurse, with two masters - public health and epidemiology - while I was a mover/truck driver.
She actually didn't make a ton of money over what I made because - especially in the summer, the moving busy season - I worked many more hours than she did. She did, however, make more money than I did.
Before deregulation under Reagon, I made substantially more than her. Whether I made more or less than her, never mattered to us. All of our money went into one joint account.
For very many men, making less money than their wife is a huge deal. They feel like less of a man.
But it needn't matter. Elizabeth Taylor's last husband - Larry some-long-last-name-starting-with-an-F - was a plumber, while she was a world famous, very rich actress. The money issue did not seem to matter to them, nor should it have! Except for the frail male macho ego, LOVE would always trump salary!
Quakertrucker
I'm not saying your ego is frail, but the majority of men have real frail egos. Thus, you get statements like: "My wife needs to stay home, and let the Man earn the living", or "We need for my wife to work, but she can't make more than me", or "I can't work for a woman", or "Women can not run businesses", or "Women need to stay out of politics", or ... ad infinitum.
My wife and I just retired a year ago. For the last 25 years or so of our marriage, she earned a much higher hourly salary than I did. She was a nurse, with two masters - public health and epidemiology - while I was a mover/truck driver.
She actually didn't make a ton of money over what I made because - especially in the summer, the moving busy season - I worked many more hours than she did. She did, however, make more money than I did.
Before deregulation under Reagon, I made substantially more than her. Whether I made more or less than her, never mattered to us. All of our money went into one joint account.
For very many men, making less money than their wife is a huge deal. They feel like less of a man.
But it needn't matter. Elizabeth Taylor's last husband - Larry some-long-last-name-starting-with-an-F - was a plumber, while she was a world famous, very rich actress. The money issue did not seem to matter to them, nor should it have! Except for the frail male macho ego, LOVE would always trump salary!
Quakertrucker