What is the best way to help someone who is dealing with anxiety/depression?

Sometimes I feel what I do is inadequate or awkward. I want to be there for them but I have trouble relating.
Any advice from someone who has been through this is welcome.
Thank you.

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in10RjFox · M

You need to find ways to involve them in some tasks or activity .. that makes them hook up to you.. The problem is basically loneliness and they can't fend for themselves. If you are far away, make them come and see you, so they get to leave home and take a bus/ train trip .. or give them some assignments and pay for it, so they get motivated to perform and are occupied in their mind. Tap on their talents.

NewKidInTown · 51-55, M

@in10RjFox Yes, I agree keeping busy is good, so they have less time to be alone with their thoughts.

NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

@NewKidInTown i would use caution with this. when i was depressed the LAST thing i needed was something else to do. i couldn’t read, i couldn’t work out, i sure as hell wasnt taking a french class, or a course, i wasn’t starting any project - even though i did all those things before — because i didn’t have any focus or the energy. i was in fight or flight response mode all day everyday. imagine yourself having an uncasted broken leg and ask yourself what activities you might like doing. for someone who’s really depressed, that’s kind of what it’s like. you can’t stop thinking about it. it handicaps you.

NewKidInTown · 51-55, M

@NiftyWhite I will keep that in mind. Thank you for enlightening me on what she may be feeling.