How do you walk away from someone your in love with?

She deserves so much more and right now focusing on school and myself is important and I can’t get distracted because when her and I fight it’s pretty bad and I cant focus on other things besides the fight and etc. I can’t give her certain things especially things I know she wants and it’s not fair to her. Its so hard to walk away from her when I love and care about her so much. Am I making a mistake? Idk what to do

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greenmountaingal · 80-89, F Best Comment

You want to get an education. You want to mature a bit. Love affairs are always a distraction and a lover with whom you fight would be very distracting indeed.

You have every right, and even a duty to your young self, to pursue further education and maturity.

You are doing the right thing, of course. People who really love you will not stand in your way or try to distract you with fights. It bothers me that you feel you must justify this on the grounds that this breakup is doing what's best for her. At your age, in the midst of getting an education, and seeking more maturity, you need to do what's best for you.

I guarantee you she will not see this as in her best interest. So stop trying to tell her you are letting her go for her own good. She'll only continue to argue, cry and protest. It's really patronizing to tell her that old standby, "It's not you--it's me..." Just tell her you need to get on with your life and it is just not working out for you.

donutworryboutit · 26-30, F

@greenmountaingal thank you so much for this. I needed this.

greenmountaingal · 80-89, F

@donutworryboutit Thank you for giving me Best Answer!😊