Some women are happy to exchange pm's as long as they disclose virtually nothing about what makes them tick. Do they disbelieve the "privacy" bit?
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SW-User
I think that would be for the individuals to answer.
Personally, I do not enjoy the conversations that dive into asking personal qns of any nature immediately. Let there be some mutual ground, let these things come out naturally, not as an interview.
Personally, I do not enjoy the conversations that dive into asking personal qns of any nature immediately. Let there be some mutual ground, let these things come out naturally, not as an interview.
alan20 · M
@SW-User True but for some common ground to develope there has to be a bit of give and take.
SW-User
@alan20 Yes there does but that comes off in natural conversation.
A lot of the conversations go with asking things that may have no relevance whatsoever but these qns are being asked out of perceived etiquette or something. Like asking someone as the second or third qn, what their hobbies are. The chances are, this would not even be read well, and if it is, they'd be forgotten before the conversation ends.
A lot of the conversations go with asking things that may have no relevance whatsoever but these qns are being asked out of perceived etiquette or something. Like asking someone as the second or third qn, what their hobbies are. The chances are, this would not even be read well, and if it is, they'd be forgotten before the conversation ends.
alan20 · M
@SW-User I'd still feel communication has to be two-way and eventually more or less balanced. Personally if I was making the effort to write at all, I'd have some interest in the other's interests, environment, etc. I still get the feeling that some women are over-cautious.
SW-User
@alan20 Yes they probably are but I would not blame them. A lot of people take advantage of being anonymous and misuse these facilities which in turn causes people to be cautious of anyone new.
alan20 · M
@SW-User I don't think I'd actually blame them, but I do think it can be a pity. I think we all have to risk poking our head out of the shell occasionally to experience life. Also - this is a genuine question - how can anonymity be misused, except by betraying a confidence? If we're offended by something that is said we simply don't respond.