Any advice? If so, what?

I'm so pathetic when it comes to girls & you may think I'm exaggeriting but that's not my nature. I don't blame myself. I've got shit circumstances for a romantic relationship atm. I'm not even trying to have 1, but I want 1 & waiting until secondary school's over isn't good enough. My romantic situation should be so much better once it's finished. I'm not waiting for that moment, I'm just living life as it is.

My distant past doesn't haunt me & I'm so strong, so I should be well up for dating. I've been thinking about online dating between now & then, it might be helpful.

I blush, I get desperate (there have been a few occasions I just wanted to cry & I was tearing up) & other super cringy shit. How can I improve between now & then?

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Serenitree · F

I could say learn to love yourself, but I'm sure you already know about that.

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FCNantes · 22-25, M

My confidence is atypical. I'm very confident in an awful lot of areas (singing, sports, cleverness, songwriting, mental strength, debating, etc.), but when it comes to relationships with people, it's abysmal. I think not seeing my friends (something I was already insecure about) since June 2016, not thinking anyone loves me for who I am & disappointing relationships at school smashed my confidence. I've become paranoid (something exasperated by finding out that girls can smell desperation) most of the time I'm with people.

Can you now see how I might be struggling?

Serenitree · F

@FCNantes Yes. I can see that you have a problem. I'm sure you're not the only person who's ever had this kind of thing, where you excel in all but the deeply emotional connections. What was your relationship like with your parents? Particularly your mother? Was she supportive? Protective? Over protective? Cool? Cold? Affectionate?

FCNantes · 22-25, M

My relationship with my parents was very good. But then my father died a few years ago & my relationship with my mother hasn't been good since. She's sometimes supportive, she's not overprotective, but she keeps shouting at me for very small things & that has tainted our relationship. I don't blame myself for any of this, I don't feel guilty.

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