What's your take on open marriages ?
To continue to love someone outside marriage requires an ability to compartmentalise emotions, which perhaps eludes most people.
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SW-User
@SW-User For bored couples who are willing to think broad .
SW-User
@SW-User it's one thing remaining married while shopping out the genitals but there isn't anything superior about it in my opinion. It doesn't take an open mind to have sex with lots of different people - in or out of a relationship. If a couple are in an arranged marriage and choose an open marriage then I feel sorry for them. In that instance the culture is very cruel. But most people have the choice to leave if they are unhappy /bored and be free to commit to another
SW-User
@SW-User I respect your views and agree with it partly . As I mentioned the underlying success of an open marriage lies in being honest and open . Its sad that most people consider open marriage as something really bad . What open marriage provides is a sense of freedom while remaining committed . When monogamous people start to realize that open marriages and polyamorous relationships are often just the same as monogamous ones — just with more people — acceptance can happen.
SW-User
@SW-User I can understand . Yes, we should stick to what clicks for us . About me , people consider me as a vamp or a bitch . Initially I used to get hurt but now I am used to it . I have seen it all .
I have been through a really bad marriage . I got married in my early twenties. I was a typical wife who respected each and every wish and needs of my husband and his family . Yet , my in-laws had problems when I returned home late from work . Eyebrows were raised . I could hear some unhealthy murmers about me . And most painfully my husband too was blindly supporting my in-laws . I was helpless . Post marriage I had only one person whom I could have looked up to and he too is not receptive to my feelings . I had to quit a promising job and stay as a house wife . Still things were going tough and my husband had to relocate to a different country . But I had to stay back to take care of his ailing parents . During this period I decided to break my shackles and break the bond . I am glad that I have come out of it . After a lot of hardwork and determination I could finally get a job and over the years I have reached the senior management level of a multinational company .
All my experiences in my life have made me less receptive towards a holy committed relationship . I don't believe there exists one .
I stayed away from men over a decade and now that I found someone comfortable to hang around problem still exists . This time its regarding my age and my marriage resume (I am a divorcee) . My boyfriend is 18 years younger than me . I am 40 and he is 22 . He is an intern in my company . But the fact is that we both get along well .
He loves me a lot but his parents in not inline with his thinking . They blame me for spoiling their son and even threatens me with words and even hurt me .
All these things makes me wonder what is true love .
I have been through a really bad marriage . I got married in my early twenties. I was a typical wife who respected each and every wish and needs of my husband and his family . Yet , my in-laws had problems when I returned home late from work . Eyebrows were raised . I could hear some unhealthy murmers about me . And most painfully my husband too was blindly supporting my in-laws . I was helpless . Post marriage I had only one person whom I could have looked up to and he too is not receptive to my feelings . I had to quit a promising job and stay as a house wife . Still things were going tough and my husband had to relocate to a different country . But I had to stay back to take care of his ailing parents . During this period I decided to break my shackles and break the bond . I am glad that I have come out of it . After a lot of hardwork and determination I could finally get a job and over the years I have reached the senior management level of a multinational company .
All my experiences in my life have made me less receptive towards a holy committed relationship . I don't believe there exists one .
I stayed away from men over a decade and now that I found someone comfortable to hang around problem still exists . This time its regarding my age and my marriage resume (I am a divorcee) . My boyfriend is 18 years younger than me . I am 40 and he is 22 . He is an intern in my company . But the fact is that we both get along well .
He loves me a lot but his parents in not inline with his thinking . They blame me for spoiling their son and even threatens me with words and even hurt me .
All these things makes me wonder what is true love .
SW-User
@SW-User That's really inspiring . Women like you truly deserve to be respected . Its heartening to see that women are becoming more confident and assured of themselves not only in the classroom but also in social settings.
Wrong barriers are meant to be broken .
As you mentioned about your new love , I don't see anything wrong with it . For years no one questioned men marrying girls half their age and it unfair to point fingers at a women in similar settings . I wish and hope that you both have a wonderful life ahead .
Never worry about past . Every experience helps us to learn and improve .
Wrong barriers are meant to be broken .
As you mentioned about your new love , I don't see anything wrong with it . For years no one questioned men marrying girls half their age and it unfair to point fingers at a women in similar settings . I wish and hope that you both have a wonderful life ahead .
Never worry about past . Every experience helps us to learn and improve .
Anopenheart · 51-55, M
@SW-User what an adventure you have been on. More power to you in any relationship it must have communicating. Open or not.