What's your take on open marriages ?
To continue to love someone outside marriage requires an ability to compartmentalise emotions, which perhaps eludes most people.
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SW-User
@Miram But as we move along we would feel better with a companion . After all humans are social beings .
Miram · 31-35, F
@SW-User I have been in an open relationship. It didn't work for me.
There are many people capable of being happy without a companion. Have you ever known or read about Buddhist monks?
Humans are social beings, true. But the degree of social interactions that fulfills them varies. Relationships can be too much for some.
There are many people capable of being happy without a companion. Have you ever known or read about Buddhist monks?
Humans are social beings, true. But the degree of social interactions that fulfills them varies. Relationships can be too much for some.
SW-User
@Miram I understand . Its always interesting and refreshing to see how different dynamics work . I always felt the need for a male partner . Infact I have stayed away from men for nearly a decade but I feel incomplete without a man in my life .
About me , people consider me as a vamp or a bitch . Initially I used to get hurt but now I am used to it . I have seen it all .
I have been through a really bad marriage . I got married in my early twenties. I was a typical wife who respected each and every wish and needs of my husband and his family . Yet , my in-laws had problems when I returned home late from work . Eyebrows were raised . I could hear some unhealthy murmers about me . And most painfully my husband too was blindly supporting my in-laws . I was helpless . Post marriage I had only one person whom I could have looked up to and he too is not receptive to my feelings . I had to quit a promising job and stay as a house wife . Still things were going tough and my husband had to relocate to a different country . But I had to stay back to take care of his ailing parents . During this period I decided to break my shackles and break the bond . I am glad that I have come out of it . After a lot of hardwork and determination I could finally get a job and over the years I have reached the senior management level of a multinational company .
All my experiences in my life have made me less receptive towards a holy committed relationship . I don't believe there exists one .
I stayed away from men over a decade and now that I found someone comfortable to hang around problem still exists . This time its regarding my age and my marriage resume (I am a divorcee) . My boyfriend is 18 years younger than me . I am 40 and he is 22 . He is an intern in my company . But the fact is that we both get along well .
He loves me a lot but his parents in not inline with his thinking . They blame me for spoiling their son and even threatens me with words and even hurt me .
All these things makes me wonder what is true love .
About me , people consider me as a vamp or a bitch . Initially I used to get hurt but now I am used to it . I have seen it all .
I have been through a really bad marriage . I got married in my early twenties. I was a typical wife who respected each and every wish and needs of my husband and his family . Yet , my in-laws had problems when I returned home late from work . Eyebrows were raised . I could hear some unhealthy murmers about me . And most painfully my husband too was blindly supporting my in-laws . I was helpless . Post marriage I had only one person whom I could have looked up to and he too is not receptive to my feelings . I had to quit a promising job and stay as a house wife . Still things were going tough and my husband had to relocate to a different country . But I had to stay back to take care of his ailing parents . During this period I decided to break my shackles and break the bond . I am glad that I have come out of it . After a lot of hardwork and determination I could finally get a job and over the years I have reached the senior management level of a multinational company .
All my experiences in my life have made me less receptive towards a holy committed relationship . I don't believe there exists one .
I stayed away from men over a decade and now that I found someone comfortable to hang around problem still exists . This time its regarding my age and my marriage resume (I am a divorcee) . My boyfriend is 18 years younger than me . I am 40 and he is 22 . He is an intern in my company . But the fact is that we both get along well .
He loves me a lot but his parents in not inline with his thinking . They blame me for spoiling their son and even threatens me with words and even hurt me .
All these things makes me wonder what is true love .
MissPriscillaPrim · 70-79, T
@SW-User Proving my point... not that I assume my sermon matters to you or anyone; I just wanted to put it out there.