Is finding a relationship after all just a matter of luck?

No tips for finding one have ever worked for me;
I've been waiting for a long time with no success and right now I'm actively looking by using dating apps, again without any success.
I'm wondering if it's really just about luck, like either you're lucky or you're not and tips and instructions how to get a gf/bf don't actually work.

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lovelywarpedlemon

I've heard that working on yourself draws healthy and available people to you. (Maybe not in those words, but that's the idea.) Are you doing anything for yourself? Hobbies? Do you go out and meet people face-to-face? Or is all your energy focused on finding someone that will make everything better for you? Sorry to be harsh, but if you're not healthy and available yourself, then you won't be able to draw or recognize someone who is healthy and available... This probably sounds like a load of bullshit, and I don't mean to assume anything about you. Maybe it could help you.

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