For married folk: the worst fight you had
What was the worst fight you had with your spouse? What was it about? How long did it last? How did it get resolved?
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It was when the fruit trees started dying from lack of water.
It was the last straw for me.
I laid it on the line. It was impossible for me to manage all the work on the farm on my own. I could not afford to pay anyone to help. I was sick of him living off my income and not helping. I was ready to walk off the farm, sell up, leave him and start a new life.
He left to go camping with a buddy and told him the whole story.
He got a huge shock when his buddy said he agreed with everything I'd said. His buddy said either you love her and the life you have enough to help with the work, or you don't.
He came back having made the decision to help, and together we are now managing most of the chores.
Two of the trees died, but the rest eventually recovered.
I don't recommend ultimatums as a strategy unless one has genuinely reached a point where there is no other option. Some people use ultimatums as a tool of manipulation; used in that way they are toxic and destructive.
It was the last straw for me.
I laid it on the line. It was impossible for me to manage all the work on the farm on my own. I could not afford to pay anyone to help. I was sick of him living off my income and not helping. I was ready to walk off the farm, sell up, leave him and start a new life.
He left to go camping with a buddy and told him the whole story.
He got a huge shock when his buddy said he agreed with everything I'd said. His buddy said either you love her and the life you have enough to help with the work, or you don't.
He came back having made the decision to help, and together we are now managing most of the chores.
Two of the trees died, but the rest eventually recovered.
I don't recommend ultimatums as a strategy unless one has genuinely reached a point where there is no other option. Some people use ultimatums as a tool of manipulation; used in that way they are toxic and destructive.