I still love my first wife and we see each other often ,but the pain of losing her has been gone a long time .
She recently said she was sorry she left me and she regretted it ,now when our kids and grandkids are all together ,she likes singing with us she asks me to play song she loved when we were together ,in a way its sad .
But she is on husband number 4 .but we have 3 kids together and soon 5 grandkids .our middle daughter will be having her baby any day now .
My second wife and I have talked a few times ,she never remarried ,I still love her too and grieved over her 10 yrs ,tried to make many deals with God to get her back ,but we all have free will ,God won't make people do things they don't want to do no matter how many years I pay without ceasing .
the love of my life as I refer to her ,she has been gone 6 yrs in November ,but its me who does not really want to see her or talk to her ,the damage is done and I am finally over the pain ,but I do still miss her ,but they all are kind of like bad dreams now .
I know I was married to my wives and I know I loved them all ,but now that its quit hurting ,I see them like friends more then ex wives ,but I will always love them ,I lived with 2 of them over 7 yrs and my first wife over 10 ,
I have found time does heal all wounds ,but how fast is up to you .
if you keep trying to hold on and try to remember all the stuff you loves about them ,it takes longer to heal ,you really have to let it go and try not to think about it ,,and you can get your mind on other things ,just most of us don't really ant to let go ,even though it is over
