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JakeShade · 61-69, M
I do check women's age in their profile, but mostly to avoid being inappropriately flirtatious with women my daughters' age or younger! Of course, that doesn't help with ascertaining relationship status, general receptivity to flirtation and gender preferences!
I try not to be "fatherly" with younger women, as I find that potentially condescending. So far, even women who would not respond to my flirtation for various reasons, seem to appreciate the attention. I'm not here *primarily* to flirt, but it *is* a little like hanging out at a bar or coffee shop where there is a lot of back and forth, which seems to make it "easy" to toss in a little.
On EP I started out by stating my birthdate as 6/6/66, a stock response I give when someone asks my birthdate inappropriately. That placed my age at about 9 years younger than I am, and boy did I catch hell for that from several women who thought *they* were flirting with a 40-something instead of a 50-something. I finally gave over to my accurate birthdate, because I was tired of being accused of being sneaky.
I'm finally experiencing "ageism" in my life, mostly in my career, and am very sympathetic with women who I believe have to carry a larger brunt with that! Men tend to be assumed to become wiser and have more character with age (within limits) while women are often dismissed... part of our dysfunction around gender in this society.
I get in trouble for the use of the term "crone years", ( I believe it was coined (in modern usage) FOR it's confrontation). For all the negative associations it might elicit, I see a wise woman beyond childbearing years who now can focus on an entirely different mode of contribution and engagement in her community and personal life. Some of my favorite women in this world, from an early age were definitely over 60 and some well into their 80's or 90's. Maybe I will use this topic as a reason to learn how to post a new topic... I think it is an important one that maybe men can speak to in a different way than women can.
I try not to be "fatherly" with younger women, as I find that potentially condescending. So far, even women who would not respond to my flirtation for various reasons, seem to appreciate the attention. I'm not here *primarily* to flirt, but it *is* a little like hanging out at a bar or coffee shop where there is a lot of back and forth, which seems to make it "easy" to toss in a little.
On EP I started out by stating my birthdate as 6/6/66, a stock response I give when someone asks my birthdate inappropriately. That placed my age at about 9 years younger than I am, and boy did I catch hell for that from several women who thought *they* were flirting with a 40-something instead of a 50-something. I finally gave over to my accurate birthdate, because I was tired of being accused of being sneaky.
I'm finally experiencing "ageism" in my life, mostly in my career, and am very sympathetic with women who I believe have to carry a larger brunt with that! Men tend to be assumed to become wiser and have more character with age (within limits) while women are often dismissed... part of our dysfunction around gender in this society.
I get in trouble for the use of the term "crone years", ( I believe it was coined (in modern usage) FOR it's confrontation). For all the negative associations it might elicit, I see a wise woman beyond childbearing years who now can focus on an entirely different mode of contribution and engagement in her community and personal life. Some of my favorite women in this world, from an early age were definitely over 60 and some well into their 80's or 90's. Maybe I will use this topic as a reason to learn how to post a new topic... I think it is an important one that maybe men can speak to in a different way than women can.