If you love someone, but you were toxic in their life, would it be best to force yourself out of the relationship, knowing they would be happier?

@Babyblue If she would be happiest by hating me, and if that was the only way she could move on, then yes

@TranscendentOne if she really loves you shell never hate you. Ever.

@TranscendentOne sorry to jump into another thread, but I know how you feel. I think you should consult an outside perspective on what exactly is toxic from you. Maybe you can change. Maybe you aren't actually that toxic.

@Babyblue I feel as if love and hate are the same thing, but on different ends of the spectrum. Like hot and cold. Maybe she couldn't hate me, but that doesn't mean that she needs to love me

@Babyblue Sometimes,staying in a toxic relationship will destroy your soul.
If he can change great if not it only gets worse, I have been in toxic relationships they take your self esteem and lower it significantly.

@SW-User I have asked her friends, and they told me how I am hurting her. And I don't want that

@TranscendentOne but they might be bias. I mean someone outside all of this who doesn't know either of you.

If you can't do that, then maybe make an agreement that you'll work to be less toxic within a certain time frame. Otherwise, if you break up now, you'd be doing something neither of you truly want and taking away her agency, in doing so.

@TranscendentOne did you do anything to make her love you?

@Babyblue Yes. I did. And I know she loves me. But I am not the person she needs me to be. And I am afraid all I will do is hurt her and drag her down with me. She doesn't believe that I will.

@TranscendentOne I am in a similar situation and ill never be the same again :(

@TranscendentOne I will love him forever.

@Babyblue You don't deserve that kind of pain. Set yourself free.

@TranscendentOne i just want him

But you shouldn't sacrifice yourself to have him. It may seem like you can't live without him, but you can. And you should. It is hard as hell to get out. But it is going to be the best

@TranscendentOne I don't agree