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FUNBOY · M
@Wistful: Very well written and well thought out. Also very insightful. I have gynecomastia, women notice my chest quite frequently. I thought this would be a disaster for me, but has turned out to be an asset! I'm amazed at the positive responses I receive from women. Yes, they stare at my chest and smile, especially when they think I won't notice them looking. Keep in mind that I dress as a traditional male, It's what's underneath that makes the difference. You articulate many of my thoughts exactly. Thanks for posting.
AnukBinary · M
I heard you have to leave the house for that to happen.
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AnukBinary · M
I've seen what you look like and you're far from ugly.
Are you uncomfortable in sharing with someone what does make you feel attractive?
Are you uncomfortable in sharing with someone what does make you feel attractive?
Shycrossdresser1 · 26-30, M
@AnukBinary everything
AnukBinary · M
@Shycrossdresser1 well that's something that needs to be worked on. I find you kind hearted and a good person. When you can finally find your song and learn your dance then the magic will happen.
ExtremeNext · 31-35
Im sure your username will have the girls knocking down your door 🤦🏻
Shycrossdresser1 · 26-30, M
@ExtremeNext why do girls not accept guy as they are even if they crossress
@Shycrossdresser1 - For me, as a mtf crossdresser, my experience has been they are first confronted with and become uncomfortable with the idea of “sharing” clothes (especially underwear) and not having the stereotypical strong, protective male around. So that is barrier one that often needs broken down.
And let’s be honest, if a butch dyke (sorry, it’s word use for effect) came up to you, while you were near where your male/neighborhood friends were- would you feel comfortable? Would you be as open and honest, or would you retreat and feel a bit uncomfortable about it?
Would they even be attractive to you? What if they dressed better even than you? Would it be exciting, or fear producing? So, barrier two is fear and misunderstandings.
Barrier three is, women are taught to fear unusual things from men at a younger age. They are taught that men rape women in parking lots, and to carry their keys out so they can defend themselves as they go to the car by themselves. That kind of taught fear is intimidating to starting any relationship.
Add to it a question of- is this guy who I just met and says he is a crossdresser - creepy, or romantic... most women will think “creepy” well before romantic or sexy.
Put yourself in her shoes... I do. But I don’t expect women to find it exciting or romantic at first... they need to get to know me, and understand it’s sexuality exciting and makes me feel really outstanding inside. Plus, I want them to help me understand their boundaries of acceptance and needs too. I would want them to feel safe, secure, and empowered... and excited and sexually explorative as well! But partnerships like that are hard to find and unique...
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And let’s be honest, if a butch dyke (sorry, it’s word use for effect) came up to you, while you were near where your male/neighborhood friends were- would you feel comfortable? Would you be as open and honest, or would you retreat and feel a bit uncomfortable about it?
Would they even be attractive to you? What if they dressed better even than you? Would it be exciting, or fear producing? So, barrier two is fear and misunderstandings.
Barrier three is, women are taught to fear unusual things from men at a younger age. They are taught that men rape women in parking lots, and to carry their keys out so they can defend themselves as they go to the car by themselves. That kind of taught fear is intimidating to starting any relationship.
Add to it a question of- is this guy who I just met and says he is a crossdresser - creepy, or romantic... most women will think “creepy” well before romantic or sexy.
Put yourself in her shoes... I do. But I don’t expect women to find it exciting or romantic at first... they need to get to know me, and understand it’s sexuality exciting and makes me feel really outstanding inside. Plus, I want them to help me understand their boundaries of acceptance and needs too. I would want them to feel safe, secure, and empowered... and excited and sexually explorative as well! But partnerships like that are hard to find and unique...
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OpenlyHonestly · 31-35, F
@Shycrossdresser1 Some do. But we are usually not normal sexually. I am into submissive guys so crossdressing is something that makes a man desirable in other ways.
Britneyps · 41-45, F
A gf or a bf
Shycrossdresser1 · 26-30, M
[@a girlfriend
SW-User
Dang.
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
You need to stop cross dressing...
Shycrossdresser1 · 26-30, M
@MartinTheFirst why
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
@Shycrossdresser1 girls generally dont want a man who cross dresses
Cassandra1 · 36-40, T
@MartinTheFirst shouldn't have to stop doing what you like to do.