What's your take on this?

When my bf and I started dated abt two years ago his work was slow. I was never wined and dined by him, When we do go out, I would cover the bill etc and help out a little financially.
Abt a year into dating i told him abt my savings.
A few months ago his work picked back up.
Two months ago he asked me to take a loan on my name and give him half the money so he can build a savings. Monthly he would pay back his share of the loan. I didn't take the loan and he's pissed.
Today He told me we are still together but keeping our finances separate.

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firefall · 61-69, M

Good call, that loan would have made no sense at all unless he was planning to abandon you. If he wants to build a saving for himself, let him put the money he was going to pay back, into a savings account.

Keeping finances separate sounds like a -really- good idea in this case.

destinyfabulous · 36-40, F

@firefall I just feel used...cause when he's back on his feet then he made this rule to keep our finances separate. After a good chunk of my savings went down.

firefall · 61-69, M

@destinyfabulous yeah, in your shoes I would, too. You might need to reconsider whether you want to stay with him at all. There's always too many freeloaders around :(

Some1Else · M

@destinyfabulous My ex did that and ran up a HUGE credit card bill $17K!!