Ever got someone angry at you, because they were trying and you didn't notice?

Apparently I've upset a woman I know by not acknowledging her sexiness. Problem is, I couldn't tell that I was supposed to. She's cute for sure, but really nothing seemed out of the ordinary. She wore regular clothes and didn't respond to the compliments I did give her. Am I missing something here?

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DancingStarGoddess ·

yes lol, frequently. hate when people assume that just because they're interested i have to reciprocate. no you didnt do anything wrong either. sounds like they were playing games and wanted you to keep playing in a certain way.

JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F

@DancingStarGoddess I don't know...she sounds like she is awkward and unsure

DancingStarGoddess ·

@JaggedLittlePill i don't know the line where he says " by not acknowledging her sexiness" throwsthings off a bit like she wanted him to push more, but decided to give cues instead of justc oming right out and sayiong she's intersted which sometimes you just kind of have to do, some people are super oblivious.. but he says he did compliment her and got nothing but ignored... so it seems like she was pushing for more. whole thing sounds super awkward. if she hasn't blocked him i'd say just come right out and ask what it is she was after or why she is in fact upset, never know til you ask, otherwise it's sort of just blind speculation.

Xuan12 · 31-35, M

@DancingStarGoddess Yeah, talking to me would have been a much better method. I'm very unassuming in this way.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@Xuan12 me too, i can't ever tell when someone likes me or is searching for something in me they have to literally spell itout or ask me, because i never know, but perhaps just ask her? maybe she will tell you what the trouble is? we ladies have a way of being a bit shy to say stuff on occasion, she may mean well, but not quite have the words she wishes to say as of yet?

Xuan12 · 31-35, M

@DancingStarGoddess Well, we're already friends. Turns out she wanted to be more, so she was trying to be sexy, but I didn't catch on, nothing seemed out of ordinary to me. Maybe she's been doing it from the start, and that's why I didn't notice anything, I just figured she was always like that. Speaking up would have been better. Or sitting on my lap and talking dirty, but I could understand if she didn't want to jump straight to the latter.

DancingStarGoddess ·

@Xuan12 yeah the talking dirty i doubt she'd have done... sounds like jagged is right, maybe she just really likes you and thought maybe you'd notice her flirting, because she didn't know how to open up and say so?

Xuan12 · 31-35, M

@DancingStarGoddess See, that's confusing too though. She's got kids and a number of boyfriends before me. I never imagined she'd be so shy about it. Maybe she's used to guys chasing after her?

DancingStarGoddess ·

@Xuan12 oh, well i'm not sure what to think then, definitely gonna need to ask her about that for sure, that's a lot of mixed stuff going on

Xuan12 · 31-35, M

@DancingStarGoddess @_@ Complicated. This is why I didn't pick up on it in the first place.