has anyone else married the wrong person?

the person i really loved was just really difficult to live with. we argued constantly. we broke up and tried again times. every time just too much argueing. but the love was real. real and deep and magical. i miss him so so badly.

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Starcrossed · 41-45, F

The occasional abuse, which I couldn't see at first, which I dismissed and made excuses for for [i]years[/i] got to be too much.

Because it wasn't physical or frequent, I convinced myself it was my fault. I had it coming. I'm difficult to live with. This is all I deserve. No one is going to put up with me besides him. I'm not good enough for someone else.
... well I think you get the lies I bought into for entirely too long.

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

@Starcrossed yeah... No one is worth noting abused for, no one!

vacationgirl · 36-40, F

@ozgirl512 see how fast the word abuse is used? is it our climate now? every time a man and a woman argue it is abuse? I said nothing about abuse. I said we couldn't get along because we argued. we need to take a hard look at our new culture.

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

@vacationgirl I admit I was thinking of an emotional dominance .. The reason being you said you believed it was your fault .. It may have been a long bow I drew and I apologise if that is so ...

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

@vacationgirl I was talking about myself, not saying you were abused.

I assure you I have not been quick to throw around that word. It took me literal years to understand and accept that what was happening to me was abuse, and have had several people dismiss my story and tell my I've embellished or lied or that it wasn't abuse. BECAUSE WE IGNORE ABUSE AS A CULTURE. Because we have not been quick ENOUGH for entirely too many women who hold their story inside because people won't believe them.