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I have been with my bf for a pretty long time now and he told me how he'd love to have me pregnant I'm 20 years old with no job I just go to school I'm not sure if I could do this. Hmmm will have to think things through very thoroughly
Is he going to at least put a ring on your finger ? Or does he just want you to be one of the millions of unwed mothers out there ? Don't let yourself get [b]trapped[/b] in that cycle. Protect yourself. And maybe find somebody who wants more from life than that.
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@328496,bijouxbroussard] he just proposed a few weeks ago
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@674919,GrumpyFish] well hes actually my fiancé he proposed just recently I guess I'm not used to calling him fiancé yet lol but you still think it's too soon? Should I marry first
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@674919,GrumpyFish] thank you so much !
Northwest · M
If this is a serious question, don't do it. It's about what you want, not what he wants for you.
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@9416,Northwest] I just feel like when the person you love says they want kids that you should give them just that but I also feel not ready
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
Lovely replies thank you all this is why I love this site
PoetryNEmotion · 56-60, F
You haven't lived enough life yet. You need to work. You need to work upon you too. Course he would. You have all the responsibility of raising the child while he works. What if something happens to him? Can you support yourself and a child? You need more education at the least. Think, girl, think.
Lackwittyname · 46-50, M
I would not do it, such a young age, still so much to learn and do. While I have a kid now, he is 6, I am 46, I am so glad I did not have one earlier, did my schooling, gained experience and life lessons.
Ynotisay · M
Think things through very thoroughly?
Uh...yeah.
No job...20 years old...and thinking about bringing a HUMAN BEING in to the world?
Wow.
I'll assume you're trolling. Whatever.
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@324070,Ynotisay] well im thinking that since i have no job my bf would support me and the maybe future baby
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Have y'all discussed life plans yet?
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@18103,MrGoodbar] yes! i love him <3
MrGoodbar · 46-50, M
[@689762,Lovelioness] finish school, and get married first, you're young there is no rush
Potpourilady · 31-35, F
[@18103,MrGoodbar] You always give the best advice! XoXo
sighmeupforthat · 41-45, M
ah, he can have his life but you have to give up yours for his selfish wantings.

he wants a dam kid... adopt one, you move on as far as you can and stay on course for your future.
Rambler · M
Don’t. You owe it to your future kid to wait till you have your life together and are ready to take responsibility.
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@4275,Rambler] you're completely correct I get so caught up in our relationship
tell your boyfriend you are not ready until you get a job , graduate college then you marry him and then you are ready to have kids in the next future
SENSME · 36-40, M
you are too raw and 20yrs only..JUST REFUSE TO GET PREGNANT
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@97162,nottyboy] raw ? I'm just an open book
SENSME · 36-40, M
[@689762,Lovelioness] open book for sexiness but way RAW in terms of looking after an upbringing and family development
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@97162,nottyboy] what makes me so raw
Rusham · M
I guess all the views and no replies because it has to be your decision after weighing up all the pros and cons
You're not in a good place at this time
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@573308,TheeOriginalEXLover] what if I never get to a good place
[@689762,Lovelioness]
That's responsibility.
Tittieman · 61-69, M
No. Not yet! You are young. There's plenty of time
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@1636,Tittieman] when should I then when I have my career n stuff ?
Tracos · 51-55, M
Don't.... First and before anything... You are in charge of your own body... Definitely not your boyfriend...

Next... There is nothing wrong with finishing school, explore a bit of the world before taking on the more then full-time responsibility of a young life...

My suggestion: wait for at least 4 years
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@581975,Tracos] thank you so much
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@581975,Tracos] so he shouldn't have a say in it even tho he just proposed? Cuz wouldn't that be taking it to the next step ?
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its your choice... i would say wait
Daisy50 · 51-55, F
wait finish school.get a job.
black4white · 51-55, M
If you cant support yourself..how would you support a child?
Lovelioness · 22-25, F
[@5201,black4white] i was thinking he could support us?
black4white · 51-55, M
[@689762,Lovelioness] Bad thought...what if something happens to him? (he leaves... he dies... you leave...) Why put yourself in a situation where you are dependent on a person
dale74 · M
Just go with it if you get pregnant you get pregnant if not it wasn't meant to be

 
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