Advice or answers? He told a friend

@HootyTheNightOwl I wish it was like that here. I would love to chat with him. But he has left me on read before so im afraid to put myself out there to him

@Justgirl Canada isn't that repressive - there's not a lot stopping you from taking the proverbial bull by the horns... aside from your own confidence.

Leaving you on read isn't the end of the world. My man often does that to me for a few days at a time... I've come to appreciate that as what I call "Signs of life". Sometimes he gets too busy in his life to contact me right away, it doesn't mean that he doesn't love me anymore or that he's not coming back.

The only way that you can figure out what is going on with you both is if one of you steps up and faces this fear to start the ball rolling.

@HootyTheNightOwl thank you

@Justgirl Until recently, I used to be just the same. I wouldn't have dreamed about asking a boy out or proposing to him, ever... I would literally rather spend the rest of my life single first - but my man has shown me the beauty of being open and direct with how you feel.

It helped me to tell him that I didn't want us to break up when he was thinking about doing that because I couldn't communicate with him much - and from there, I moved into other areas of our relationship, too. Just yesterday, I asked him to clarify something that he said in my third language because I didn't understand... I wouldn't have done that two years ago.

If you can find the courage, it's certainly worth doing because the worst he could do is to say "No" and you're not wasting your time holding the door open for someone who doesn't want to come in - but, if he says "Yes", you get a man and a confidence boost, too.

@HootyTheNightOwl youre right. Thanks for sharing your experience. I guess i always thought he would pursue me first. He did when we were younger and I rejected him. But we are adults now and clearly care about each other but both too shy

@HootyTheNightOwl I say Care, because i have been in love with him for what feels like my whole life. Im sure he cares about me too by the things he has said over the years but i was only told he likes me and always has

@Justgirl If you rejected him once, then he may be put off trying again. Some men can be crushed and put off asking the same person again after being rejected once before.

@HootyTheNightOwl yeah that makes a lot of sense. I liked him too. I jist followed some dumb rule that he was my friend's exe. I didnt know him when they dated and i didnt know they dated until i saw him and asked "who is that?" Because i was instantly attracted/connected to him. I feel aweful that i said no to him amd I always wonder if that hurt him in any way. I wish i said yes. I wanted to so bad