What's against telling him?

I realized eventually that a lot of miscommunication had occured between me and the opposite sex in the sense that quiet a bit of what I provided was considered platonic in nature, in that when I like someone that way I crave knowing their inner worlds even if they are dark as fuck and to help them fight off the demons in their own mind and make them know even if they feel unlovable that someone outside them does.

But Alas, quite a bit of that emotional support is thought of as friendly behavior so I stopped actually saying I wanted a *girlfriend* because the way I look at it now the way neurotypical women use those terms it could be merely for someone the find desirable in the bedroom and nothing more and I ..

don't care to use a woman that way... if I were content with merely sex I could have found that so easily to be honest.

I mean if nothing else I could have found a friend who was horny often and hooked up with them when they were single because shocker but I am aware that good girls do bad things sometimes and women get horny too but [i][b]I dislike it [/b][/i] with no strings attached.


So now I just say I want a lover who is like my best friend at the same time. Communication problems resolved.

Lots of people here assuming that your friend is a guy. If it's a girl my advice still stands and tell her. Silence isn't the way forward.

It would depend on how they see you. If they showed any sign of seeing you in a similar fashion then I'd let my feelings out. A lot to gain and also a friend to lose if it's too much for them. Can't see you being satisfied with less though and if you say nothing someone else will come along and take your place.

Forget the mind games.
Tell them !

If they reject you out of hand, well, at least you'll know for certain rather than torturing yourself always wondering.

Better that than have you walk away and them always wondering if it was something they said or did but never knowing.

I know how that feels ):

Been there. It feels a little stifling sometimes, like I want to say and do things that I'm afraid would wreck our friendship. It's been a struggle, but So far I have managed.

just ask him. we can be assertive and make the first move too. and hey if he really does have multiple options it's be helpful if he knew all of his options :D

Maybe you could murder them. 🤔

Been there... *hugs*