How do you move on from a break up?

I've had so many experiences in relationships and have broken or been broken up with several times. I don't understand why this cut the deepest. It's so hard to move on. I feel stuck. It has been 2 weeks but it felt like forever. There are days when I feel like I'm getting through it and then not anymore. Also, I'm struggling not to stalk his socials.

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JRVanguard · 26-30, M

Time heals
Distract yourself
You’ll go through the motions
There will be regret and a feeling of loss at first but eventually you’ll realize you’re away from a situation that was getting less and less happy, you can focus on yourself and that there are more people out there who can make you happy
When I went through a breakup someone told me “You’ll make new memories with better people” and that’s always stuck with me
Good luck
Here if you need a friend🫂
Or a distraction *Juggles*

nym3ria · 31-35, F

@JRVanguard that's beautiful! thank you! I think i just have these limiting beliefs that i will never connect with someone like that ever again.

JRVanguard · 26-30, M

@nym3ria I think it’s natural to only see the negative and feel a little hopeless after something like this
But things are sunnier than we think they are
You’ll meet someone I’m sure
And the one thing about every relationship is that we learn more about ourselves
Maybe during your relationship you were like “I love him but hate XYZ about him”. Now when you’re ready to get back into dating you can go “I won’t be with someone who does XYZ”. Stuff like that. I believe in you🤗

nym3ria · 31-35, F

@JRVanguard yeah you're right. but i think i still have the rose-colored glasses on to actually focus on the bad stuff I didn't like about him or the relationship haha. but thank you so much! this has been helpful. I know it's a learning process. My mind just keeps telling me this was it even tho it most certainly did not look like it was. 😅

JRVanguard · 26-30, M

@nym3ria When you’re hurt you focus on what’s missing, when you’re healing you focus on what you’re free of. It’s a fresh wound still, you’ll get there 🤗
Happy to help 🫂