What should i do now?
So me and my gf (17F) broke up about 1 month ago. Lets call her "Sara", and i think im going into depression (not the topic, but it contributes).
We ended things on mutual terms after being together for 11 months.
A bit of backstory, we go to the same school, class and are in the same friendgroup. We are all friends and care for eachother, but she can only comftorably talk to 1 guy in the group. Lets call him "Adam". Sara and Adam are great friends, and i am also friends with Adam. But before me and Sara got together so was she a little intressted in Adam. Acording to her so wasnt anything romantic.
Back to the present. Of course now after we broke up so has Sara been talking to Adam a lot more, which i respect. My problem is that i am a overthinker, so i easily overthink that i just got replaced or something.
But what i most overthink of is that they are catching feelings for eachother. And im afraid that its true because i still love Sara.
Over the few days so have they been talking to eachother almost constantly, and also talking about eachothers intrests.
Sara has always been an introvert and independent girl, but recently so has she been texting Adam a lot aswell.
And whenever i asked if she needed any help with stuff when we were still together, so would she respond with "no i got it", "i can figure it out", "i dont need help" most of the times. But now when Adam offers help so does she accept it.
I dont know if its because Adam doesnt know that shes doesnt like help, or that shes just being friendly.
Another thing why i struggle with this is because i also have trust issues, and i have asked both Sara and Adam seperatly if they had any romantic crushes. Both said no, but the trust issue says otherwise.
I have a bunch of problems right now that arent related to this, but i believe that it contributes to the overthinking.
I am going to start going to therapy to help with this, so am i very happy over that.
If anyone has a suggestion on what i can do, or want to know some more?
So am i happy to hear and say it.
Otherwise so am i just happy that you read this.
(I apoligise for any misspellings or confusion)
We ended things on mutual terms after being together for 11 months.
A bit of backstory, we go to the same school, class and are in the same friendgroup. We are all friends and care for eachother, but she can only comftorably talk to 1 guy in the group. Lets call him "Adam". Sara and Adam are great friends, and i am also friends with Adam. But before me and Sara got together so was she a little intressted in Adam. Acording to her so wasnt anything romantic.
Back to the present. Of course now after we broke up so has Sara been talking to Adam a lot more, which i respect. My problem is that i am a overthinker, so i easily overthink that i just got replaced or something.
But what i most overthink of is that they are catching feelings for eachother. And im afraid that its true because i still love Sara.
Over the few days so have they been talking to eachother almost constantly, and also talking about eachothers intrests.
Sara has always been an introvert and independent girl, but recently so has she been texting Adam a lot aswell.
And whenever i asked if she needed any help with stuff when we were still together, so would she respond with "no i got it", "i can figure it out", "i dont need help" most of the times. But now when Adam offers help so does she accept it.
I dont know if its because Adam doesnt know that shes doesnt like help, or that shes just being friendly.
Another thing why i struggle with this is because i also have trust issues, and i have asked both Sara and Adam seperatly if they had any romantic crushes. Both said no, but the trust issue says otherwise.
I have a bunch of problems right now that arent related to this, but i believe that it contributes to the overthinking.
I am going to start going to therapy to help with this, so am i very happy over that.
If anyone has a suggestion on what i can do, or want to know some more?
So am i happy to hear and say it.
Otherwise so am i just happy that you read this.
(I apoligise for any misspellings or confusion)
18-21, M
