Once a cheater always a cheater?

I think that at a certain age cheating is common. I think that as long as there is real love in a relationship everything can be worked out but how do you work out cheating. She is now in her late 30's and wants to try again shes a real adult now she cheated on me once and flirted alot when we were together that was back in our early and mid 20's. I want to work it out but don't know where to start.

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MasterofNone · 26-30, M

Habits are hard to change without deep realisation. And deep realisations are hard to come by. So yeah, once a cheater always a cheater.

bushi2020 · 36-40, M

@MasterofNone You don't think time changes people?

MasterofNone · 26-30, M

@bushi2020 Time changes degree to which something happens. Or changes interests. But i don't think it really changes someone unless they have to. And it really leaves a residue that may show up anytime.

Say a cheater may reduce the frequency of cheating. Or maybe they are really really interested in something else that directly reduces the cheating. Or maybe they had a kid or something like that made them reconsider their lives but otherwise no.