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Midlifemale · 61-69, M
Hi. Im reading this 2 years after you posted it. I feel so bad for you. I don't understand how some men can be.
The questions...did he look to cheat, did it just happen, did another girl go after him....why why why ?
I am so sorry that you are still somewhat griefor yourself....
The questions...did he look to cheat, did it just happen, did another girl go after him....why why why ?
I am so sorry that you are still somewhat griefor yourself....
Montanaman · M
@Midlifemale There are reasons why monogamy is human nature...
The heart is a lonely hunter.💔💞
-The wisdom according to Montana.😎
The heart is a lonely hunter.💔💞
-The wisdom according to Montana.😎
Fauxmyope2 · 26-30, F
@Midlifemale Thank you! 🤗. I still wrestle with those very questions dozens of times each and every single day.
It’s hard to explain other than I grieve within the first minute that the alarm sounds, when I have time to think, and as my head hits my pillow each night.
I have learned to compartmentalize it to get through my day. If that is that “time heals all wounds,” I can say that, probably many others, I am living day to day.
Thank you again. I hope that life is filled with joy and love for you.
It’s hard to explain other than I grieve within the first minute that the alarm sounds, when I have time to think, and as my head hits my pillow each night.
I have learned to compartmentalize it to get through my day. If that is that “time heals all wounds,” I can say that, probably many others, I am living day to day.
Thank you again. I hope that life is filled with joy and love for you.
Midlifemale · 61-69, M
@Fauxmyope2Thank you. I have love and joy with my children and grandchildren...not my wife. Over the years, she has turned mean and angry and negative all day everyday. I dont understand completely why, so I feel alone most days, I stay married, and I enjoy my children and the work I do. But spouse's are seem to change. Im unhappy that mine did and that your fiancé did.
Abstraction · 61-69, M
@Fauxmyope2 When people cheat on you, you tend to look inside as if there must have been something wrong, that wasn't enough, that wasn't loveable. But sometimes, often... it isn't that at all.
Sometimes you need to look inside the other person and see the missing pieces within them that meant they didn't have what it takes to value what they had. There's a certain level of wholeness we need to bring into a relationship for it to work, to blossom into strong and mature love.
He wasn't able to bring that.
You are ok. You deserve love: to love and be loved. I hope you find it.
Sometimes you need to look inside the other person and see the missing pieces within them that meant they didn't have what it takes to value what they had. There's a certain level of wholeness we need to bring into a relationship for it to work, to blossom into strong and mature love.
He wasn't able to bring that.
You are ok. You deserve love: to love and be loved. I hope you find it.
Montanaman · M
@Abstraction I couldn't have said this better myself. 👍👍Kudos. 🤗💞🌹
Fauxmyope2 · 26-30, F
@Abstraction Thank you for reading this and commenting. 🤗. There is a part of this that makes sense and I want to hang on it and internalize this. You are not the first to tell me this. Again, I thank you so much.
I can grasp this but I am still climbing out of the abyss. I hope to find the light.
🤗
I can grasp this but I am still climbing out of the abyss. I hope to find the light.
🤗
Abstraction · 61-69, M
@Fauxmyope2 I'm old enough to know we make it out of each abyss. Don't lose heart. The way you process it - the story you tell yourself - is like finding footholds. Sometimes you slip back but you know where those footholds are.
Fauxmyope2 · 26-30, F
@Abstraction Thank you. This is what I needed to hear. 🤗