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I Think Cheating Is Wrong

Edit: Just for clarification, my girlfriend was 23 when we met and I was 42. She's Fijian Indian and Muslim and I'm White and we pretended to the parents I converted. Parents refused to let us marry. We texted, called, and saw each other everyday in those 3 years, we pretty had our relationship at my house, her car and my car. I proposed to her and she accepted 6 months ago but the family threatened to kick her out / disown her. I told her if she wanted to get married to a cultural equal I'd be okay with that (not really) and I'd let her go and asked her if she could please tell me so we could stop talking / seeing each other way before it happened.

Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years. We had an incredible relationship and I felt she was the one person I could truly trust. It was the kind of relationship where we could talk about anything or just sit and say not much and still be happy. I never had to check her phone or anything and she never checked mine.

Sooooo, last month when she said she was going to Malaysia with her sister for a 3 week holiday I was like awesome have fun. We were seeing each other up until the night she left and physically intimate. She left on the Sunday 2 weeks ago and on the Thursday before that I took her to the movies, made out with her and stuff, gave her a hug Sunday night and said I'll see you in 3 weeks :) She don't remember what she mumbled but I do recall finding it a bit odd.

I didn't hear from her for 5 days and got worried, couldn't contact her on messenger, viber, facebook and then noticed that the messenger had a "you cannot reply to this person" which usually means you're blocked.

Tried to contact her sister, she didn't respond to me or get my messages, went round her house and saw she was home, rang the home phone and no answer. Knocked on the door and she refused to answer.

Nek minute - I check Snapchat, my girlfriend has a story on their showing her getting married in Fiji.....

WTF ...

Been good friends with her sister for as long as I've known my girlfriend and I'm completely cut off from any reason or explanation of what happened. Its the most weird feeling, I keep wanting to know what, why, how this happened but there is no way to find out. AFAIK my girlfriend is stil in fiji on her honeymoon lol.
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ImRileyTheDog · 22-25, F
So what now? You don’t even seem mad or sad, just confused. If someone were to do that to me, what’s the point by now? Screw them!
Zygote404 · 51-55, M
@ImRileyTheDog Whats the point in being mad? It won't help me much. She's married lol. She's slept with a guy already. I don't want her back, I wouldn't take her back. I believe I don't own any girl, they're free to leave without drama, but she wasn't just my girlfriend, she was my best friend. I thought about riding my bike off a cliff tbh, I have been going through episodes of accepting it, getting really angry, getting really sad, I sat outside her house yesterday and balled my eyes out but that didn't help. Next is to get over her but its harder than you think, feels like she died or something.
ImRileyTheDog · 22-25, F
@Zygote404 No I mean there is no point in tying to get her back or contact her after you did everything you could. She was extremely rude and morally wrong for her to do that and she’s not worthy of a great guy like you who cares about her so much. I’m glad you don’t want her back and it seems you’re making the best of a bad situation. You don’t need her nor does she deserve you. All I can feel is sympathy for you right now and I’m very sorry this happen but things will get better. I wish you all the best.
Zygote404 · 51-55, M
@ImRileyTheDog Thanks, you too. Your right.
ImRileyTheDog · 22-25, F
@Zygote404 I’m not right at all, I just give advice I’d like to hear. You see my age, I have no experience in dating in general. Do what you think is right Mister. Have a good one.
Zygote404 · 51-55, M
@ImRileyTheDog Fair enough :) You too