Age-Gap Relationships
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I am dating a teacher.

A disclaimer: I am of legal age in the US.

Why not confess your secrets to the internet?

I suppose I wanted to vent about this recent relationship I’ve involved myself in.

He is an AP Physics teacher occupying a nearby school district. Under the policy he is supposed to follow, despite me being 18, he’s technically not allowed to date a fellow student. Not sure if that applies to all surrounding districts. We met online (I won’t specify the source. Haha.)

I’d like to express a few of my worries.

I fear that the times we do occupy the public, we will likely be stared at. Despite our connection, I still feel it’ll be looked down upon. In fact, I know it will be. Haha.

I also have no clue how to explain this relationship to my mother if it were to last, or to any of my friends, as this is a touchy subject in itself. I plan on keeping this relationship hidden for as long as I possibly can. I’ve been visiting him secretly, and the thought of getting caught is mortifying. I’ve been out and about with him recently, and I still feel as if I’m doing something wrong... I can’t even bare to occupy a drive-through with him, as I also fear I’ll be seen with him and harshly judged. I can’t shake the pit that remains in my stomach, yknow?

(Please, no mean or judgmental comments! I am simply venting!)
ssunmhaley
22-25, F
22 replies 208 views Oct 14, 2020
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Amyrakunejo · F Best Comment
What brainwashed dumbshits see: Law and policy breaking, possible 'pedophilia'.

What I see: A couple in love.

Age is based upon a flawed (beyond flawed) system of time that's been changed more times than I can count on both hands, is also some stupid magic-gate bullshit that's attached to maturity as if they're one and the same which only fools, statists, and legalists believe.

I honestly wish I could help; I'd even offer my services as a hired sword.
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SW-User
@Amyrakunejo They are in love.
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bhatjc · 46-50, M
@bijouxbroussard That is true.
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bhatjc · 46-50, M
@Amyrakunejo That is deep
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bhatjc · 46-50, M
Any updates to what is happening. It is legal in the eyes of the law. She are not his students. So keep having your fun
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luvnsunshine · 22-25, F
Since you are in another district there is unlikely anything directly forbidding it. However if someone made the connection after seeing the two of you together then I could see them causing problems so I’m sure there is still risk.

Not judging in any way but kind if I ask how old he is? If he’s a new young teacher like 23 or something then people may not even give a second look when you are in public.
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luvnsunshine · 22-25, F
@ssunmhaley you’re 18 and entitled to make your own decisions. For now you might want to keep things quiet so as not to risk his career. You should be finishing in spring anyway right? After that the risk to his career should go away, but sadly judgmental people might still happen. Not much you can do about that. I have an aunt and uncle who aren’t quite that far apart, maybe 12 years, but their relationship is wonderful.
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midnightrose · F
Age difference? I never dated a teacher but an older guy when I was in high school. Same as you, I was nervous to tell people. I had a couple of people tell me they didn't think it was a good idea. My mom didn't exactly like it but she allowed the relationship.

I think they'll (at least your parents) take it better if you're mature about it and don't keep it a secret. Depending on how much older he is, because that really does matter to some people.
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REMsleep · 41-45, F
I dated a much older person very briefly when I was 20 and again for a little longer when I was 21.
I advise you to use great caution and I ask you to consider a couple of things.
1. If you feel that you must hide your relationship from loved ones then something is not right.
2. How old is this teacher?
There is an inverse relationship between the age of the teacher and possible nefarious intent on his part.
3. Despite a feeling of deep connection our thinking especially in youth is clouded by these feelings and you need you friends and family to know your situation and have your back so to speak.
4. Him taking this risk with his career is unusual and points to a penchant for risky behavior.
What is his motive?
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heywood83 · M
If you don't go to the school where he teaches and you're of legal age then what's the issue?
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As long as you’re 18, there’s nothing wrong with it. You’re an adult
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PoetryNEmotion · F
I don't believe you. If he is, he is stupid enough to risk his career. No girl is worth that.
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ssunmhaley · 22-25, F
What?... we had no relations with each other when I was underage?

And my immature response? As if you aren’t attacking me at the moment, while simultaneously attacking him as well. You are continually making assumptions about our relationship, and it seems you’re only deflecting your own immaturity onto me. Facts are; he will not lose his job, as I am of legal age (which is funny, it’s a concept you cannot fathom to wrap your head around). Secondly, I am class of 2021. I am graduating in the spring. Thank you for your concern, though! @PoetryNEmotion
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ssunmhaley · 22-25, F
I suppose you forgot to read the disclaimer. I’d suggest upping your literacy skills as well. @PoetryNEmotion
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PoetryNEmotion · F
@ssunmhaley You are dumb. LOlz.
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