EVERYBODY is capable of being abusive. It takes two. So please stop the "it's all his/her fault" victim drama BS.

I’ll give you that in an abusive relationship there’s a lot of toxicity that could be happening on both sides, but unhealthy attitudes and behaviors (ex: clinginess, bickering, shitty communication) is not interchangeable with ‘abusive’. ‘Abuse’ is intentionally causing damage. just because one person is being abusive definitely doesn’t mean that both people are being abusive like some dysfunctional tango.