I need answers

@scrood you teach and guide them… so they aren’t “cruel”

@WaryWitchWandering teach them discipline but with these rules there is no discipline. What is timeout to a child who has been knocked out by a grown man?

@dikplz wtf are you even talking about

I’m talking about the very fact that children should not be exposed to abuse… and that we teach/guide and only allow people who give love into their life

One comment you’re saying children are abusing other children.. this one you’re saying grown men are knocking out children

*most* children will give what they receive. If you are caring and empathetic with your child they usually are the same with others (obviously very young children have meltdowns/tantrums regardless of treatment they receive from those around them)

Children want to be loved and acknowledged… they enjoy learning and need/want guidance.

@WaryWitchWandering so you said something key... Most children will give what they receive... So if a child does not receive discipline, they will be received as an unruly child. Why? There is no rules 😌 The unfortunate thing is they display combative behavior that is replicated with other children who see the fruit of being unruly over the discipline that should be the standard. How is a child going to learn not to hit if everytime they hit they are rewarded with cuddles and junk food? If that question does not sound ludicrious to you then you dont work with kids and dont know that this is a standard practice that administration finds appropriate to do for a child who disrupts the class and is a literal threat to themselves and others.

@dikplz when my 2 yr old hits anyone or anything he gets put in the corner by himself for 2mins. Not attention no anything or anyone

Guess what? He doesn’t do it again for days. Every now and then his big emotions become too much for him again, or he pushes limits.,, he lands back in there again

He mostly is a love bug.., he doesn’t hit other children. His worst is if I’m telling him no or I’m just busy doing something and he wants attention (he acts out). I talk him through it. If he can’t/won’t listen, he goes into timeout.

He would never ever hurt anyone out of the house, in fact he looks out for his peers and is a great sharer. My daughter is a total love bug, she is 4

I think it takes patience and *PROPER* attention from the parent/guardian in their life

You’re making it sound like love is equivalent to giving them whatever to appease them and stop bad behavior

Love is taking the time to work through their feeling with them, and even sometimes “tough love”

Kids are brilliant and just need us to fully show up and work with them

@WaryWitchWandering you are making it seem like kids cannot be evil.

@WaryWitchWandering when you get chairs, books, toys, etc., hog spit on, smacked, kicked, hit and constantly called out your name on a daily basis then turn around and constantly be expected to give out hugs and sympathy to the same kid for $9.50/hr for up to 14 hrs a day and told to just put up with it when you have 11 other kids to attend to by yourself you that is insane!

@dikplz no, I even said… *most* are not

Psychopathy is real… and children who are “ill”” in that way often end up in juvenile detention center or a psych ward.

There are evil people all around…’but you didn’t phrase your initial question that way

@WaryWitchWandering no they dont because 80% of adults in jail are mental and did not receuve the help they needed as children because they saw no need for early prevention

@dikplz ok… whelp…

Don’t know the details of the child’s life in this scenario. Clearly they shouldn’t have been in a daycare or whatever… or mom/dad hasn’t been on top of shit

Clearly there is a problem at home or something psychological going on there.

But yet again… you phrased your question in an odd way.

@dikplz where are you getting these numbers from lmao

Also adults may be fucked from shit that happened after childhood

How the fuck would you or I know?

Either you’re trolling and just getting kicks outta getting my response now… or 🤷🏻‍♀️haha

Looking over this comment section, they’ve got to be trolling .. It’s too dumbfounding to be genuine. @WaryWitchWandering

@WaryWitchWandering Not trolling those are real numbers look up those facts. I'm a big reader so I'm sorry to alarm you at these numbers that sound far fetched. It is simply the sad facts of life. My point in mentioning that bit about the relationship between jail and the mentally ill abused adults was to show that the cycle doesnt end between what caused what and whose fault it is. The bottomline is this, there should be at the very least consequences for intentional repeated learned behaviours. For example, a baby who bites. Do you continue to allow them to bite others because they dont know better or do you remove them from an group for a little bit every time they bite? That is a consequence learned from conditioning but a consequence nonetheless. The issue for me becomes when a child is older and does the same thing, there is no consquence at any educational center because the child does not have any realistic consequences. Timeouts do not work for children in that kind of setting because the child more than likely will not sit peacefully for one if they are already throwing things. There is no way to isolate them for reflection because of the rules set in place that required all caregivers to be in the same room as the child at all time. There is no flexibilty to that rule. That is what is troubling to me.