How can I loathe him and still stay?

I always wondered why women stay with the person who hurts them the most. I would watch others and just not make sense if it. I never looked at myself; although, it honestly took years to admit I was a victim.

I shouldn’t still be here , but I stay. Someone has to take care of me. I mean, I make enough money that I could live alone, but I’m not sure my health is up to it anymore. Curse him for taking my self worth and my love for life. *sighs*

And tomorrow will be another day …

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CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M

You are still a young woman. Has it occurred that maybe, just maybe, if you left him you'd get your confidence back, and from that address your health issues in a positive way?

Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F

@CharlesRomsey I’m not that young, and sadly my health issues will continue regardless. He was doing better, but I knew it wouldn’t stay that way. His old self is slowly coming back. I’ll probably have to make the decision if it gets too bad again, honestly.

CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M

@Dewkissedrose But you ARE young, and pretty. A toxic relationship makes you old before your time. I know from experience - and I was in my late twenties!

Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F

@CharlesRomsey yeah. Been married for 21 years, so it started in my 20s, and that stupid age bracket goes up this coming week. lol

CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M

@Dewkissedrose I think that you need to lay down some rules to him, about what you expect, and what you need. For example: no shouting, agree a menu for the day, he will do his chores, you will do yours. I assume that there is little intimacy between you: but maybe a cuddle and a thankyou every now and then?

Dewkissedrose · 46-50, F

@CharlesRomsey he doesn’t do serious talking, and I get 1 hug a day. That’s it.

CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M

@Dewkissedrose Cuddles make the world go round. He sounds too macho for you.