What did you do when you found out your partner cheated on you?

When I found out my ex cheated on me, it felt like my whole world shifted. I experienced a whirlwind of emotions: rage at their betrayal, hate towards them and even myself, and a profound disbelief that this could happen. I questioned everything—wondering why it occurred, what I could have done differently, and whether it was somehow my fault.

In those moments, I sought closure. I needed to confront my ex to understand their reasons. Did they see a future for us? Was it a one time mistake or a sign of deeper issues?

I also leaned on my friends. I was hoping with sharing my feelings with them provided comfort and perspective, reminding me I wasn’t alone in this experience. But they really didn't give shit. They put up a good act of pretend of caring. At the time I didn't care, as long I wasn't alone. That's all that mattered to me back then, because I truly wanted to kill the both for hurting me and leaving me alone would have be a mistake.

To cope with my pain, I turned to self-care practices. Whether it was drinking thoughts and pain though a bottle, spending time in bed feeling sorry for myself, or indulging in a favorite ice cream, I learned that I was destroying myself during this tumultuous time because of that Sack Of Skin

Reflecting on that experience now, I realize it was pivotal in shaping my understanding of love, trust, and vulnerability and even 30 plus years later. I still can't stand the sight of them. I see nothing but red in my eyes and I have nothing but pure hate in my heart for them.

So yes I know that pain very well

I lost my faith in him. Trust was gone. But I continued on at an emotional and physical distance because deep down I felt like I pushed him to it.

After I became a mom, everything within me changed. My depression got worse, along with my appearance, and I simply wasn’t there as a partner. Raising the kids landed on me because he worked all the time to support us, so even though it broke me, I still put the blame on myself because I felt like I deserved that kind of treatment.

Nearly twenty years later I no longer feel that way anymore as I fully blame him for his actions, including not communicating with me properly because he preferred to dive into his hobbies instead, and the whole situation and how we each handled it is something I’ll feel anger from for the rest of my days.

She said it didnt, and none of the messages I found between them indicated it went fully physical. They were only in the same town once during her visit to her parents, but they were planning on more.

We talked .. in the end I said for her not to stay if she wasn't ready to do what it would take to make the relationship work. She stayed .. but even with more counseling, nothing changed vs our dysfunctional past. The divorce is pending now.

Should have left the night I found out. Would have saved several years I wasted trying once again to save the marriage.

I got divorced and took my kids 7 days a week. She was too busy with all my socalled friends to have kids around. Now i look back as a positive thing as i got closer to my kids and got on with my life

It happened when we were in college and she was free to date, but not to have sex. I suspected she was having a lot of sex, but I didn't know for sure until she told me after we had been married a while. By then, it didn't matter. She never did anything behind my back after we became engaged. She had some friends-with-benefits until I asked her to stop dating others. She stopped immediately.

I got over it, my wife was a great mother to our kids and nobody is perfect

I didn't and they didn't, thankfully.

What would I do? Hmmm not sure.. discuss it first.

I can only control my behaviour. This would be the basis of my decision to let go of my partner and move on.

If my partner ever cheated on me?

I could never forgive him so it would be over no matter how much he begged me to stay. Done!

I filed for divorce.

I don't have to worry. I might as well stay single forever.


For me, it's freedom from BS

I was cheating too. I was never faithful.

cry?🤷

Only happened once but it didn't matter because we were already practically done anyway

Cheated myself, with one of his friends if possible 😊

Carried on like normal. Whined about it on here.

And that's how the next virus pandemic began. Miram was pissed.