Is it normal to wanna be a husband but not a dad?
My girlfriend and I wanna get married, but we don't want kids, we like our lives now and just want it to be the two of us .
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dancingtongue · 80-89, M
In today's world where it takes two paychecks to just survive and looking at the chaos any child is likely to have to grow up in, perfectly understandable imho.
Never a question with me. My late wife came with a 4-year old son, so I became both simultaneously. And it actually was sufficient for me, but my mother-in-law kept beating on my wife that we had to have another child because "I would want one of my own" . So we capitulated (although we couldn't really afford another at the time), and then mother-in-law constantly complained because she thought I favored him over the first child.
My two sons -- we raised them as if both were mine -- split when it came to having children. One did, one didn't.
Never a question with me. My late wife came with a 4-year old son, so I became both simultaneously. And it actually was sufficient for me, but my mother-in-law kept beating on my wife that we had to have another child because "I would want one of my own" . So we capitulated (although we couldn't really afford another at the time), and then mother-in-law constantly complained because she thought I favored him over the first child.
My two sons -- we raised them as if both were mine -- split when it came to having children. One did, one didn't.