You are right to dissuade your friend from seeing him or forcing a conversation with him right now. It sounds like he might have blocked her from social media and his phone, so double check with friends to be sure. If the profile is there, it means he blocked her. If he has blocked her, it means their argument was bad enough that he broke up with her and probably wants nothing to do with her at this point.
The best thing your friend can do is wait for him to reach out instead of trying to reach out to him. Painful memories of the fight are dictating their actions right now and until he can get past it, there's nothing she or you can do.
@GohantheThird yeah i agree, especoally if someone ghosts, thats like the harshest degree to being dumped. I think in her mind she just cant accept he would do this to her. Its so sad but sometimes we just break our own hearts 🤷🏻♀
Are they both pretty young? You guys around the same age? Tell your friend, she's going to have to be the grown up, moving forward with their relationship (or lack thereof). If he has not reached out, it's not because of some bad luck of him trying to reach her. He's definitely not. I understand feels are involved, but it's best if she "feels" her away from that situation and move on. Cause, he is or did. If I'm wrong, then I guess I need to save my wise hairs off, cause they were just a tingling, when I read your post. Follow your intuition. 🫤
@Levenrack shes 26, hes 31. Yeah, his friends are definitely sketch. They are definitely being told by him not to say anything which is so sad bc i can feel her secondhand embarrassment from having to go to those lengths. I agree with you, spending $500 to fly to fix a relationship is only romantic in movies. In reality, he'll probably see her as crazy
This is definitely not a good idea. She doesn't seem to want to see the red flags. He's already showing her and giving her the signals that he's not interested in a relationship with her. She needs to let that go and to go see him would be a big mistake. Big mistake. She needs to move on and find someone else.
@LadyGrace thats what i told her. Its so crazy what love does to people bc shes actually pretty logical & frugal so to see her like this is so sad. Honestly tho, a part of me wonders if she should jus go see him, to get the final closure & slam of the door to move on. Shes a little delulu hoping they can work things out & be okay but i think her realistic side is making her act desperate enough to do something like this 😔
@Bananana Yep. Sometimes we have to let people go ahead and get hurt in order to get the message. She's going to get hurt but it doesn't sound like she's going to listen to anybody. Hopefully, she'll find out she shouldn't chase people like him who came right out blatantly and told her with his actions he wants nothing to do with her. I hate to see that happen to her but sometimes that's the only way someone will listen. She sounds insecure and she needs help in that area. Holly Gerth has a good book for that, that I read one time. It's her own story about what your friend is going through and how she handled it and got through it and it's wonderful and it's fun to read but very important. I highly recommend for any woman with life and relationship struggles to read the book. It would be great if you could get it for her in paperback as a gift. It would get her shoulders on straight, if you know what I mean. Highly recommend it...
@Bananana Yep. Sometimes we have to let people go ahead and get hurt in order to get the message. She's going to get hurt but it doesn't sound like she's going to listen to anybody. Hopefully, she'll find out she shouldn't chase people like him who came right out blatantly and told her with his actions he wants nothing to do with her. I hate to see that happen to her but sometimes that's the only way someone will listen. She sounds insecure and she needs help in that area. Holly Gerth has a good book for that, that I read one time. It's her own story about what your friend is going through and how she handled it and got through it and it's wonderful and it's fun to read but very important. I highly recommend for any woman with life and relationship struggles to read the book. It would be great if you could get it for her in paperback as a gift. It would get her shoulders on straight, if you know what I mean. Highly recommend it...
@AngelUnforgiven i know but i just feel bad when she looks so lost and looks to me for help and i cant even help her, this is a big decision and she cant really afford therapy rn
@Orca4950 oh yeah i dont think he has a wife or gf. Shes told me throughout their talking he always made time for her & was honest, not sneaking around or acting shady
@Orca4950 his friends say he hasnt responded yet but she knows hes still alive and okay bc if he was in a serious accident or something someone would say something
