What Is The Goal For You?

This is for those with a (or more) marriage behind you and you are out there dating again or considering it.

Is marriage what you are ultimately looking for again?

Would you consider other outcomes - like a LAT (living alone together) or other modern monogamous alternative?

Would you conside things like open relationships or polyamory ?

What are the reasons for your answer? Does your age influence your answer, if so .. how?

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StarLily · 51-55, F

The whole idea of "going out there dating again" just seems so forced and that's kind of unappealing to me. I like it when things just happen instead of looking for it.

I've never really thought about having relationship goals I guess. I think my goal is to find contentment with how things are, whether single or not. However, I am a romantic at heart and would love to find love. But my experiences with it is that love seems to find you, rather than you finding it... if you know what I mean?

I would not consider open relationships or polyamory.

And I feel the same as I did when I was 20, so age doesn't influence my answer... except that I maybe cared more about it back then.

BrandNewMan · M

@StarLily Very similar to how I'm thinking. I think there has to be some level of openness/intention toward dating for it to have a meaningful chance to happen. Even if it is just keeping an active schedule of some type of outings to places where others gather.