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Do men love differently than women?

I’m talking about intensity, and empathy, and lots of other factors that create the relationship.

Are women quicker than men at moving on after the break down of their relationship/marriage?
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FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
I think the better question is, do men and women perceive what expressed love is differently. I find that men and women have very different ideas of how they perceived expressions of love. For men, it seems to be more physical. By being physical, they are showing their love. For women, it is more emotional and things of thought and emotion are showings of love.

This isn't always the case, of course. Exceptions exist.

I think we need to learn to ask our partners what we consider to be love and work out a happy medium instead of constantly just doing things that don't work for each other and builds resentment.
Ximenajacoba · 26-30, F
@FoxyQueen Thank you for saying this and readjusting my question to answer it, I hope to get a number of responses to understand how this is different around the world
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@Ximenajacoba Sorry I didn't answer your actual intended question though on if it easier for men to walk away from a relationship than women.

I'm going to answer no. It is not. Men make it look easier because they have had a lifetime of repressing feelings and closing things off that hurt them, so while it looks easy, it is not. What they do causes them more harm than they realize. Also, they are often harder to gain trust back after a bad break up.

Women also have hard times with break ups, but instead of sucking it up and closing off the pain, we often go through it instead while we process it. That helps us gain back our trust a bit quicker and allows us to eventually move on.

Neither is better, though closing one's self off from healing is not at all good and should be helped with a therapist to break down the emotions as opposed to just internalizing them. Men and women move on at their own paces, but that doesn't mean they have resolved the emotions of the past relationship.
Ximenajacoba · 26-30, F
@FoxyQueen I agree that men do have a worst reaction which just makes them harden up towards the next woman, and get abusive in many ways. They are also more desperate for attention and often misinterpret situations which put them in danger of being accused of rape! They do not take rejection well and often it is when their latent misogyny raises its head!
Not every man, some, who may have struggled elsewhere in their lives and their past.
FoxyQueen · 51-55, F
@Ximenajacoba Well, men also tend to find others to blame for things going bad and not look at their own self to see where they contributed or created the problem. That certainly does help build up interal misogyny. If all your girlfriends are "crazy" maybe in truth, you are the actual dysfunction in your life. The possibility odds of always attracting crazies is even higher than winning the lottery, therefore, you are probably creating the crazies from your own unchecked behavior.

However, women will take the blame for things they aren't accountable for and seem willing to put all the negatives on themselves instead of looking at things objectively. That hurts them and sets them up for further abusive situations by believing they are bad partners and deserve what they get because no one of worth wants them.

This can go either way though. It isn't completely true for everyone. These are just very strong patterns one sees after making observations.
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