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my boyfriend doesn’t like me going clubbing

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 months now n he’s so important to me. He’s really protective n jealous, not that i give him reasons to be jealous, if he doesn’t like something, I won’t do it. Personally I don’t find it “controlling” I think it’s just respecting boundaries, n it’s not like it doesn’t go both ways. If if didn’t like something, he wouldn’t do it either.

I’ve been out clubbing a few times, never to get with guys, I always rejected them, but I just thought it was fun to dress up, get drunk, go out with friends n dance like whatever. My boyfriend thinks that people only go to clubs to get with other ppl n that’s fair enough, that’s the case for most.

n it’s not that he doesn’t trust me, its just why would he want me to be around drunk horny boys when he’s not around? But anyway, my friend is going out clubbing for her bday, n she asked me to go. She asked me last min, she’s going with other people too, n i told her my boyfriend wouldn’t be okay with that, n now she’s mad at me. She said he’s controlling and insecure n she said “you’ve known me longer” i don’t see what that has to do with anything. it’s like she expects me to prioritise her over him. i told her we can do something else for her bday that doesn’t involve clubs n she’s still not happy.
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That's very mature that you have discussed boundaries with your bf. I can definitely see his point of " people only go to clubs to get with other ppl n that’s fair enough, that’s the case for most."

The key is that it goes both ways. If you didn’t like something, he wouldn’t do it either.

Maybe he could go with you to your friends bday?
ArtieKat · M
@VeronicaJane
Maybe he could go with you to your friends bday?

I was going to suggest that too
Katiecunn12 · 18-21, F
@VeronicaJane
yeah he’s fine with me going as long as he’s there n can make sure i’m safe, but thing is it’s my brothers bday celebration literally a week before hers, n it’s a big one, his 21st. n he’s having it in a function room above a club that my boyfriend is also coming too n that’s where he’s meeting my family, n he’s already took a couple days off work for it, so i can’t exactly ask him to do the same next week for hers. she invited me last min, n i said we could do something else together separately but she’s so stubborn
ArtieKat · M
@Katiecunn12 If you think that you and your boyfriend are going to be together for life and you won't need girlfriends ever again.......
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Katiecunn12 · 18-21, F
@ArtieKat i have plenty girl friends, n i’ve been doing just fine balancing my friendships n my relationships until this bday party thing came up. but there’s plenty other things u can do with friends. if not going clubbing is enough to break up my friendships then so be it
@Katiecunn12 he would have to take a couple days off for your FG's party?
Katiecunn12 · 18-21, F
@VeronicaJane what does fg mean?
@Katiecunn12 ooppss - typo "GF"... 🙄
Katiecunn12 · 18-21, F
@VeronicaJane well his days off from work are random so if he has something planned he has to book a holiday for that specific day, he could technically book a holiday for just one day, but i wouldn’t want him out drinking until 4am if he had to be at work 6am the next day
Katiecunn12 · 18-21, F
@VeronicaJane also don’t use abbreviations like that, barbara will come for you