my boyfriend doesn’t like me going clubbing

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 months now n he’s so important to me. He’s really protective n jealous, not that i give him reasons to be jealous, if he doesn’t like something, I won’t do it. Personally I don’t find it “controlling” I think it’s just respecting boundaries, n it’s not like it doesn’t go both ways. If if didn’t like something, he wouldn’t do it either.

I’ve been out clubbing a few times, never to get with guys, I always rejected them, but I just thought it was fun to dress up, get drunk, go out with friends n dance like whatever. My boyfriend thinks that people only go to clubs to get with other ppl n that’s fair enough, that’s the case for most.

n it’s not that he doesn’t trust me, its just why would he want me to be around drunk horny boys when he’s not around? But anyway, my friend is going out clubbing for her bday, n she asked me to go. She asked me last min, she’s going with other people too, n i told her my boyfriend wouldn’t be okay with that, n now she’s mad at me. She said he’s controlling and insecure n she said “you’ve known me longer” i don’t see what that has to do with anything. it’s like she expects me to prioritise her over him. i told her we can do something else for her bday that doesn’t involve clubs n she’s still not happy.

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Realifecuckold · 61-69, M

You are fortunate to have received a lot of good feedback from people. My earlier comment about being older, only meant that when you are older, clubbing will seem so passe. But I agree that it is important to you now to be out with your friends.

I also agree with many comments, that if you are with a jealous guy. That means he does not trust you. I also agree with people who say he is insecure. That seems obvious.

I am a senior citizen who has had a lot of fun in my life. I say to you...you are only young once. Have fun, but find a guy who trusts you, and is secure enough to trust you when you want to go out dancing, or when you just want to be with your friends
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Katiecunn12 · 18-21, F

@Realifecuckold
from my experience going to clubs with friends doesn’t give u a chance to actually spend time with them, they always seem to go away n do they’re own thing n talk to strangers it’s always messy n i feel there’s better ways to spend time with ur friends than to go out clubbing with them. i prefer going to bars with my friends that way we can actually catch up properly n it’s a lot less drama.

Realifecuckold · 61-69, M

@Katiecunn12 That is very true. Clubs are so loud that no one can spend any real time with anyone. The point remains that if you do want some time with your friends, regardless of where you go, your boyfriends still has to trust you.

Write to me sometime if you want to talk more.