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my boyfriend doesn’t like me going clubbing

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 months now n he’s so important to me. He’s really protective n jealous, not that i give him reasons to be jealous, if he doesn’t like something, I won’t do it. Personally I don’t find it “controlling” I think it’s just respecting boundaries, n it’s not like it doesn’t go both ways. If if didn’t like something, he wouldn’t do it either.

I’ve been out clubbing a few times, never to get with guys, I always rejected them, but I just thought it was fun to dress up, get drunk, go out with friends n dance like whatever. My boyfriend thinks that people only go to clubs to get with other ppl n that’s fair enough, that’s the case for most.

n it’s not that he doesn’t trust me, its just why would he want me to be around drunk horny boys when he’s not around? But anyway, my friend is going out clubbing for her bday, n she asked me to go. She asked me last min, she’s going with other people too, n i told her my boyfriend wouldn’t be okay with that, n now she’s mad at me. She said he’s controlling and insecure n she said “you’ve known me longer” i don’t see what that has to do with anything. it’s like she expects me to prioritise her over him. i told her we can do something else for her bday that doesn’t involve clubs n she’s still not happy.
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Miram · 31-35, F

I think it’s just respecting boundaries, n it’s not like it doesn’t go both ways. If if didn’t like something, he wouldn’t do it either


That is not what boundaries mean. This is the opposite of having boundaries. You draw boundaries so he doesn't cross them. You aren't drawing any. You are allowing him to decide for you.
Katiecunn12 · 18-21, F
@Miram he didn’t decide for me, i agreed, n he said he won’t either
Miram · 31-35, F
@Katiecunn12 Even if you agreed, this doesn't mean you're drawing boundaries or respecting them.
Miram · 31-35, F
@Katiecunn12 You make the mistake of thinking they are rules the two of you decide together or smt. No, they are rules you draw to create a healthy distance. A boundary.
Katiecunn12 · 18-21, F
@Miram bottom line is i care about his feelings n it’s not like giving up clubbing to protect his feelings is that much of a sacrifice